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I'm surfing Facebook and checking in on the DB forum on this lovely Saturday night.

It's freezing here. Minus 39 Celsius with the windchill today. Even my poor doggie ( husky cross) didn't want to go outside. Her little paws froze just walking from the car to the front door.

I'm hanging out at my H's apartment while he is at work. We are spending Valentine's Day together. Inside!!! I have my hooded onesie on right now and thermal socks to warm me up. He can warm me up in the morning when he gets home.

My lovely Daughter is on her first " real " date tonight. A nice young man is taking her to the movies to see Deadpool. He is a co-worker of my sons and I have met him a few times. He is very much like my daughter. Very quiet and shy, but the two of them have been chatting up a storm for the past couple of weeks. I'm happy that she gets along with him so well.

That's about it!! The couch, my IPad and Netflicks for tonight.

I am going to see Deadpool with my daughter on Monday. Enjoy yourself Di and stay warm.

Hey everyone,

Made it through Valentines and Family day holiday (a new holiday in Ontario,Canada to break up the month).

I saw Deadpool with H last night. Great movie, very funny adult humour.

So, my life is chugging along. I'm really not certain where I want my R with my H to go. I love him, but really, right now don't want to live with him the way he is. He has to figure himself out, figure out if he can actually compromise and put someone else's needs ahead of his own or at least on par with his.

Now, I'm going in the opposite direction. For so long I put others needs ahead of mine that now I really don't want to. It's nice to only have to worry and think about myself. Don't get me wrong, I have not turned into an evil, selfish bit*h. I still care about others and enjoy doing things for the ones I love, including my H. But, if I don't want to, or don't feel up to it, I just remove myself from the situation and go to my sanctuary (my still new to me apartment). I'm comfortable there,

H and I had a bit of an R talk today. He opened up about some of his feelings. He still hopes that one day we can live together again and that he is not ready for not having me in his life. Patience, patience. Bit by bit he opens up. I just have to let him be. On the other hand, I don't know if I want to continue in a marriage like this. This is not what I wanted in an M or at least thought I did. Right now I don't want to make any decisions about our R either. Just kind of floating along.....

Glad you get to have that choice! Sounds like you are taking the time you need to figure it out and that's great. Keep us posted!

I thought it was a great movie also. Sounds like you and your husband are managing in a reasonable manner. Enjoy each day Di, be well

Floating along is fine. Sometimes not doing anything is also doing something. Perhaps your H just needs more time to figure things out.

It's great that he acknowledged he's not ready to not have younin his life.

Funny thing is if he would have said that ( He's not ready to not have me in his life) a year ago, or even six months ago, I would have been so upset. Now it really doesn't bother me. Regardless of what he decides, my life will be good and fully in my control.

"The flower that blooms in adversity is the most rare and beautiful of all."

Thank you Mu!! You are so very kind.
Wish you would join us on the Party Bus.
I think some of the stops can be found on the DB FB page.

On the home front, not much to report. Still busy with schooling. I have an assignment due today. I was going to finish it last night, but was pretty tired from moving some big furniture yesterday. Also my daughter was not feeling well at all yesterday. I put her in a nice hot herbal bath and gave her some medicine. She ended up sleeping in bed with me. I guess sleeping in Mommys bed, even at 23, still makes her feel better. Today I must finish Assignment #1 and work on Assignment #2 (different course) that is due tomorrow.

Busy week ahead for me as well. Wednesday taking my son's GF for a doctors appointment in the city. Thursday going shopping with my mom at IKEA in the city after my doctor's appointment. Thankfully Friday I am scheduled for a massage. I think I'll need it.

Today I am thankful I found another Tassimo in my mom's garage. Mine croaked last week and today I really really need some coffee.

Hope everyone has a great day.

Think some of the party bus destinations were from January.