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Thank you Vanilla - you oh so do not sound vanilla by the way...

This was exactly what i needed - you have understood the situation exactly.

Thank you

I even think it will be easier to STFU re OW because as you point out Vanilla (somewhat spicy perhaps with sprinkles/cherry on top?), that is just part of XH stuff - one more instance of letting the boys down really. But not my stuff.

Anyway - I have shinny white gnashers -

Thank you Kiwi.

Plain Vanilla is one of my shadow parts, that's how I got my name. An attempt to turn Plain V into Vanilla Essence. In October 2014 I knew almost nothing about myself, behaviours, DB, and abuse. I saw myself as an ugly fat creature unworthy of living.

WH had tapped into my childhood part Funny Bunny to abuse and I let him.

I now understand that once you know you can never unknow. Each ahah is a spell break moment and gradually the skill to spell break builds.

That is as it is and it unfolds in time as detachment becomes normal way of life in every interaction.

So it will be for you.

You are a seeker of answers.

Good for you

V

Oh I smiled at the white teeth as I was minded of the Friends episode where Ross had his teeth whitened and they turned off the lights.

V

Hey kiwi, how was your week.?

Hoping you are well!