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How did you get him to admit it?

Parking ticket from her house at 1am and he finally cracked and told me everything.

Makes me wonder if your daughter really did see her that one night in bed with H.

WOW.

The truth ALWAYS comes out. We're here for you Red...

So sorry Red. Please try not to anything crazy to get yourself in trouble.

Get away from him and surruond yourself with friends and family right now.

Okay so this is what happened: I found out and he admitted it all on the phone, he came back to the house and wanted to talk. I smacked him across the face(I should have) I have never hit someone in my life. I told him to get the f out of my house.

He said he wasn't going to stop seeing her and he eventually was going to tell me.

I found out he was sleeping with us both the same time.

Time to lawyer up mother effer.

I still love him and all but MY BEST FRIEND REALLY.

I left her a voicemail telling her he told me about the affair, he told me they have sex and I hope she knows he is still having sex with me too.

I really..really..am hurt. BUT I FELT LIKE I KNEW in my heart. I feel like she was in my house now. I am at this moment done.

I told him I will be getting a lawyer, to stay the F away from me, and unless it is about OUR KIDS then leave me alone.

He just said OK!

I probably ruined all my DBing but honestly I needed to get that all out.

He took our house guns away with him since he was worried i'd shoot someone. I am not that crazy.

You are extremely emotional right now and I don't blame you one bit. But dont make any big decisions until you can think clearly.

Wait until you process some of this stuff and you will be able to make smart decisions.

Time to L up and go dark, Red.

That's an ugly thing to have to find out, trust me, I know!

I will tell you, though, that you now have the power to "let go" of whatever emotional baggage he dropped on you because THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT!

Whatever he said to you, told you about what wasn't working etc. is all bull...

This is his issue and none of it is your fault. Do you understand?

You can beat your head against a wall asking "why?" and you will, but don't let him see it for a second.

He wants to have his cake and eat it too, but now you know... Now he gets to find out what losing a family really looks like.

Don't call, text, e-mail. Don't answer his calls or texts, either.

Most importantly, get hold of a L ASAP to see what your options are... As a stay at home mom, you have a lot of them...

I am going almost dark. He can talk to the kids but that is it. They are small so I will have them answer and talk to him. I will have him tell me what days he wants them and he can come take them. I do not want to share this house anymore. He has what he wants. No family. He can have no family. I do not think I will ever want him back after this.

I agree and I'm so sorry to hear that your suspicions were right. Right now you need to get a L to see what your options are and if you need to go dark, do it. It'll not only help you to deal with this huge BD, and also it might wake him up to what he did/ does!

Whereas for your BF, you are better off without her!
Please look after yourself right now, get support from family, from us. I'm rooting for you.