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- MB - #2654712 02/18/16 09:14 PM
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Originally Posted By: NYGal
Also, I saw W today at a presentation. We did make eye contact at the end and she looked kind of sheepish and tried to catch my eye. I quickly left with a friend to have lunch at the student union. Guess who walked by? W. Made eye contact and we both smiled. She was alone and I was with a friend. Phew.
. That is awesome! See how you felt like you had more power in this situation? So much better than running and chasing W down. She was interested, made eye contact with you, and smiled. And, she got to see that you are capable of moving on and not needing to wait around for her to speak to you. Awesome interaction! smile


M:45 H:48
M:11
No kids
BD:Sept'15
EA:Confirmed 1wk later
PA: Oct'15
12 '15 2 wk R
Just kidding, H wants NC
12 '15 H back w/OW
4 '15 R &still working on it
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I'm needing to pour some hot coffee in my lap right about now. I hope hot tea works the same. I'm getting nervous about running into W and ow possible tonight at the basketball game. I have my game plan of just GALing it up, but I'm anxious.


11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker
Reconciling since late April 2016
Don't give up until it's time, then move on
Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
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I'm trying, but I'm so sad again. I hate the weekends. I am trying to get my mind off of them. I keep hoping that if I cry it out I will feel better. But it's never ending. It's a bottomless pit of tears. I hate this loneliness.

The person who was going to the game with me cancelled and it has left me feeling so disappointed.

I just struggle so much trying to keep it together. So here I am, asking for more help. I'm not tempted to call or text her, but I just am having so much trouble trying to keep it together.


11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker
Reconciling since late April 2016
Don't give up until it's time, then move on
Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
NYGal #2655021 02/19/16 05:52 PM
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Boo for flaky canceling friend! Can you go away for the weekend? Visit someone withing weekend trip distance?


M 16 yrs, WH62, P54
3 adult blended kids
EA 11/13, BD1 6/14
PA fall 14, BD2 2/15
Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15
Separated 4/16
WH moved OW in 5/16
Divorced 6/15/17
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Weekends are super hard for me too. I always spent my weekends with Waw. Now that she's gone, weekends are super lonely for me too.

Can you rent a funny movie? Maybe that will provide a little distraction. Also for me, super long hot showers always calm me down.

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(((NYGal))) wish I can offer you more help.

Movies? Gym?


You can call me Dory/ Grl.

As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"

It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
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Hi NYG, sorry it's a tough weekend - it will get better I promise. I just wanted to ask whether you have a contact list for the rebuilding session group? We got one for the D group and people will post to our Whatsapp group asking if anyone fancies catching a movie etc. Normally there are always takers.

If there isn't a list already, maybe you could offer to set one up? I'm sure there would be others in that group who would be glad of your lovely company going forwards.

Take care and try to have the best weekend possible in all circumstances xx


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Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
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Our rebuilding group has a contact list and there are lots of activities we do. Today I'm going on a hike with the group. They are lifesaving!

Went to the game last night with a rebuilding friend. I'm so glad she could join me at the last minute! W was sitting with our mutual friends. I didn't see ow thank god. It was breast cancer recognition night and so I and about 8 other survivors walked out on the floor at halftime as our names scrolled on the scoreboard. My back was to W for almost all of it and when we turned around I didn't make eye contact. I actually had some fun around the arena, chatting with different people. Getting hugs. Then my friend and I moved to court side chairs for the second half. Right in W's line of sight, but I've always sat there so WTH not? Did you see me on TV? LOL there I was.


11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker
Reconciling since late April 2016
Don't give up until it's time, then move on
Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
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NYGal, sounds like you had a good evening and feel a bit stronger today! Enjoy your hike, so happy you have the group and new friends!


M 16 yrs, WH62, P54
3 adult blended kids
EA 11/13, BD1 6/14
PA fall 14, BD2 2/15
Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15
Separated 4/16
WH moved OW in 5/16
Divorced 6/15/17
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Hike was good. Now I'm listening to songs we first heard last summer in Kauai when we went with friends to celebrate 60th birthdays. W and I went out one evening to listen to slack key guitar. Very beautiful and soothing. I couldn't listen since BD until now. I had to resist the urge to send a song to her, but MB and Rain came to my rescue. I have to promise to sit on my hands.


11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker
Reconciling since late April 2016
Don't give up until it's time, then move on
Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
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