My sixth thread was titled "kavikratu" which means one who possesses wisdom or sacrifices, full of discernment, having wise designs, having the insight of a wise man or fully wise insight.
My eighth thread was "Ksanti" which means exercising patience toward behavior or situations that might not necessarily deserve it and is seen as a conscious choice to actively give patience as if a gift, rather than being in a state of oppression in which one feels obligated to act in such a way.
My tenth thread was "siddhiyatrika" which is a Sanskrit word whose literal meaning means one who makes a pilgrimage to learn magical arts or to gain good luck or beatitude.
Hi Mutatio, I'm sorry you are feeling low my friend. I always appreciate your kindness and wisdom on the forum and hate to read of you feeling so miserable.
Can I ask a question? Given all present circumstances, what do you need to do in order to find inner peace and happiness for yourself? Truly, you can decide and begin to work towards that 'life' for yourself today. Imagine if your W were not going to be in that life. What would it look like? Where would you be? What would you be doing? Who with? How would you feel?
I strongly believe there is a happy life for us all beyond (or even within) our current situations. However, we need to set a course and make a start towards it. I hope you will see this and start taking whatever first steps you need towards a happy life for yourself.
We are all here for you and I would encourage you to keep posting, but perhaps a change of direction is needed??
Take care xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Hi Mu, maybe it's time to say goodbye to feeling forsaken and hello to happier times? And you're a wise man. I know you can say hello to happier times.
(((MU)))
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
Hi Mu, maybe it's time to say goodbye to feeling forsaken and hello to happier times? And you're a wise man. I know you can say hello to happier times.
(((MU)))
This Mu. Grlonfr hit it on the head. It is time to say goodbye to holding on, to letting your W dictate your moods, to not actualizing fully. Goodbye to the way you used to live. 180's aren't just behavioral for the sake of new behavior, but they can rewire our DNA.
I've said this before on here Mu, you're a man among boys. You've got the soul of a wise tribal elder living in you. Let him lead you to the new promise land. If Mrs Mu is there when you get there, fantastic. If not, you will be there on your own. It takes a gut full of courage to say, "I'm going to get where I need to be and if I have to walk there alone I will."
You have that courage. And the wisdom to bring others to that place with you.
PP
M 39 W 36 T5 M3 BD - 1/15 Separated - Same Day Served 9/15 D finalized 6/17
This is a self serving post Mu, just so you know up front!
So it's Monday morning here in little old NZ. I woke to a very kind message of love and support from a friend, and my day started out with gratitude, hopefulness and joy about my life and the people in it.
We often underestimate the power of our own presence has in someone else's life and what we bring to them. I was reminded of that this morning, and I am grateful that person made their presence known.
So to read "it maybe time to say good bye". Well my heart and stomach dropped. I don't know what it means in your world. I only know how I interpret it in mine. It scares me Mu for lots of reasons.
Isn't it funny what someone can trigger, someone all around the world, someone I know only by a handle on a online board, yet be emotionally moved by .
My dad never understood me Mu, never gave me any physical affection, positive attention, just nothing.
I spoke of you recently to a friend, I talked about this man this very gentle man who I thought I would have liked to have had as a father. A man who has wisdom and insight at a pracitical and spiritual level and who I can honestly say probably gives the best dad hugs ever. I would have liked to have brought my joys and sadnesses to you. I think you would have celebrated me.
I know I am not your wife or kids, and nothing I can say or do will ever heal the pain you feel. So if you do say goodbye I want you to know this. Know that you have healed a small part in me and I am grateful.
If you ever decide you want to reach out to me. I am easy enough to find on MDW Divorce Busting facebook page, just look for the Hobbit.
oh my, I'm sorry for confusing some of you. I was referring to the emotional link binding me to my wife. Last night I did some soul searching and concluded that my wife does exactly what she wants with no regard for me. She left the house at 10 am and returned 11 pm. I am not angry with her. I accept that I simply am not a concern of hers. It is unfair to me, my children and my wife to force an outcome that is not possible. I must forgo the grasping and attachment of what I want in regards to my wife and marriage. I accept reality and will try to make it as positive as possible. I will work harder at detaching from my wife.
I will comment to each of you my dear friends but first I must cook my children dinner. I'll be back. Thank you again and see you soon.
