Yea otw... that might be best. I will really consider it. Just frustrated tonight. I was talking to a friend yesterday and telling him I think it is BS that I am the one who even has to think about doing anything in terms of divorce... she should do it, not me. She should have done it months ago.
Hey Feyth! Good to hear from ya. It def is easier once I sign up for one to do the training. When I did one in the fall... I trained pretty hard for it. The weather is just a bit iffy for another month or so around here and I do not like the tread mill. May would be better than end of April (I am thinking about one at the end of April). Hey have fun on that cruise! I love disney myself, never done the cruise though. I am sure Pluto and a bunch of teenagers will be checking you out!
Those DB'ing coaching sessions are a bit pricier than I had thought. I will still think about it though. I am not sure there is advice that can be given to save this though.
The urge to push things forward is becoming over whelming. But I am not 100% sure if it is based on a logical thought process or emotions. I think it is logical but it might not be. Some say divorce only changes how you file your taxes. In my case, I do not believe that. It would bring closure and true detachment. I am not sure if that can actually happen without it.
I have also been thinking about the respect issue lately. Isn't this whole situation showing some pretty decent disrespect towards me? I mean to leave but not push through with divorce and leave me in limbo seems disrespectful and unfair. She gets everything she wants, a life where I am completely out of the picture but yet she still has this life line attached to me.
The good news is I have a job interview in a few weeks. A change of positions could be just what I need right now. It would definitely draw my mind elsewhere.
I think you owe it to yourself to spend a few bucks and see. I also think you are being very emotional pushing things.
very emotional huh... that could be the case. I cannot be making any decisions based on emotions for sure. It has been a crazy three weeks in my head. I need to get back to where I was 2 months ago. I was focused and could follow a plan then... I was stronger. Now I have trouble following a plan (even minimum contact which had been easy). The plan was to not worry about any of this stuff until the 1 year mark. Obviously, I failed at that. Friends urge me that it is best to leave this mess behind. To move on, get closure. I know it is because they do not want to see me hurting so I cannot really trust their advice, it is biased (and they really dislike WW now).
OK.. so now back to the plan. Let this go for a while, don't even think about it unless she brings it up. Go back to no/minimum contact. I did contact her twice in the last two weeks, nothing major, one way texts about the animals and a snow storm in which she responded to right away... but I still wish I didn't do it.
I am usually quite busy but it has become routine based. I play hockey a few times a week and work out just about everyday (that takes me away from everything). I have some house projects I should do to get ready to sell it (either way, that house has to be sold). I may join a yoga/running group in a few weeks and have been debating going to Ireland to see a friend. All of that with my last MBA class wrapping up so there is definitely a lot going on!
I already feel better just from letting these things out the last hour on here. Thanks again!
Good luck with your job interview. A new position would certainly change things up for you. A trip to Ireland sounds great too. Good stuff brewing in the GAL department.
Thanks for the vote of confidence regarding the DB coaching OTW.
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Otw, the house is in my name but we picked it out together when we were dating. If WW is out of the picture then I def would want to sell it. If WW is back in the picture... We need a completely different relationship and I think a fresh start in a different place would be best. So either way I look at it, seems like the right thing to do is sell the house. Those are the only reasons really.
