LOL MB....and I did that once. Instead of enjoying time with the kids he stalked me. I finally told him I was just browsing at the book store. Not 20 minutes later in he walks with the kids. After that I just stayed in the house but would retreat to my room with my phone. Also something he has an issue with.
And I can so behave! But you're right. What fun would that be?
Okay so the day has been a repeat of both blaming me and my mouth and saying I put myself on the single path.
Have you ever just wanted to slap the living hell out of him? Because I want to. Desperately.
Like, dude, okay already. It's "my fault". Then leave me alone already! Believe what you need to but can you do that in your world and not let it invade mine? That would be GREAT!
Just one good slap. Oh ya baby!
Rain (moi): 40 Ex Fiance: 39 3 kids On/off again EA & PA Last BD by ow 12/15 Moved kids and myself back into our own place: 12/15
"I haven't cheated on you since PA. But no matter what I say you will never believe me, no matter what I do it will never be good enough, you'll always see me the way you do and I know some of that is my fault. Enjoy your night with the kids."
What!?
So the missing condoms??
And I'm at fault for not believing a liar. And hello.. how I see you now is ALL your fault!!!!!
Seriously this man is SO lucky I don't want to drive over there!
He needs to leave me the F alone. I can not promise that I won't be responding to that.
Rain (moi): 40 Ex Fiance: 39 3 kids On/off again EA & PA Last BD by ow 12/15 Moved kids and myself back into our own place: 12/15
Any response that is an emotional reaction is keeping the ball in play in the game. If you truly want the game over, don't play.
I use the example of unplugging a video game. People can keep pushing buttons but nothing happens.
What he does is no longer your concern. You get to be angry he left. You get to be angry you were betrayed. You get to be angry that you didn't get the marriage you wanted in life. Don't hurt yourself further by showing that to someone that doesn't care and will use that to hurt you further.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
Any response that is an emotional reaction is keeping the ball in play in the game. If you truly want the game over, don't play.
I use the example of unplugging a video game. People can keep pushing buttons but nothing happens.
What he does is no longer your concern. You get to be angry he left. You get to be angry you were betrayed. You get to be angry that you didn't get the marriage you wanted in life. Don't hurt yourself further by showing that to someone that doesn't care and will use that to hurt you further.
Don't worry. I ended up taking a nap with the kids and never responded. Im still super pissed though, because I am all of the things you mentioned and more. But I won't reply.
I'm pretty pissed too. Sometimes on my bad days I feel like all the problems in the world are because of WAS's. I never said I was mature. Reading this forum sometimes makes me get angry again to see how people treat each other. People and their quest for personal happiness. Good job humankind.
But then I go back to being appreciative for what I DO have. Here's the thing. I believe that WAS's should've stayed put, STFU, and been loyal partners, and then maybe they would've found out that the grass is greener where you water it. Maybe they would've learned they could've been happy with the R they had. But at the same time I believe that us LBS's can also learn to be happy with the life WE have. Really, the journey to making a marriage work and learning to be appreciative of life without a marriage is very similar...it starts by letting go of happiness as something that is conditional and embracing life on God's terms.
Cheer up a grumpy zues and give me a few things that are good in your life, and a few things that you are looking forward to. It would make me glad to see you doing a small step to offset some of that anger. You deserve it.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
Aww Zues...thanks. And I had to laugh. I've said those words to him before. The grass is greener where you water it BUT then I added "so thanks for causing the drought and then complaining about the color".
What can I say, it's who I am.
Anyway. I know that I come here and sound super angry and ungrateful and even murderous on occasion. And yes, I am all of those things to an extent but I am also grateful for my family and friends. My children's health and my new community here.
Grumpy Zues. LOL
Rain (moi): 40 Ex Fiance: 39 3 kids On/off again EA & PA Last BD by ow 12/15 Moved kids and myself back into our own place: 12/15
Ate some yummy food. A hot sandwich I love. I needed a pick me up. It worked! LOL