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Everything she says is : ( this much about you ) ( this much about herself







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()= me holding out my arms

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Totally makes sense, right ;-)

It makes sense Gmum, thanks. I woke up at 3:30 this morning and could not go back to sleep. I wasn't at my best today.

dday, roiste, good advice, thanks. I usually manage her actions better. I learned from today that when I am exhausted I manage my emotions poorly. It's 8 and I'm already yawning.

Thanks for the support Di

Be well

Gmum is right. Love her from a safe distance. Protect yourself though. Emotionally, spiritually and mentally. This is draining. I promise you that she still has feelings, she may not know how to deal with them. It's all about her, you are just the person she is taking it out on. You always hurt the person closest to you... that's the way crisis works.

Be well mu!

Just to echo the other thoughts, you need to detach more Mu. Take yourself off the roller coaster. You be the best Mu you can be and ignore her behavior. It doesn't matter if she's rude; it only matters that you were polite.

You could set a boundary though about behavior in front of your kids. You don't want the kids getting the idea that you can just choose not to be polite to everyone.

***hugs***

I truly know how hard this is, Mu.

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Great thought dday, I hope your right. I've seen her make hard choices and do what she thought was right even though she did not like doing it. I can't worry about that though, I'm staying in the here and now.

I agree Elly about getting off the roller coaster. I know I can do it. If I have an occasional difficult moment that's okay too. I just come here and tell my tale of woe. I did not say anything to her today, she has no idea I was upset. I want to be polite and respectful it's important to me that I display good behavior during her struggle. Peace

You are right. As you and many others have told me is that it's perfectly okay to come on here and vent. That's what we're here for. It's also okay for us to send you hugs!

Good for you for keeping the higher road! It's important for you and your children.

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mut, I'm so encouraged by your attitude. You give me an amazing amount of loving examples. The best to you

Doing ok mu?

I'm just checking in Mu. Hope you are having a great day and inching forward on your own journey.