There goes W past my window again, right on schedule.
I'm going to rent the monster truck on Wednesday, and I'll take my time getting it over to MB's apartment. I want to make sure I'm completely confident driving it. Also, I'll stop along the way and do my best to pick up a whole bunch of hot guys for Rain and MB. I'm not sure I have the skills for that, but all I have to do is tell them how awesome and gorgeous you two are, and they'll hop right in. You all can practice "detachment" the next morning.
Did she look up again? Geez these waywards! I just posted on mine because my genius X wants to borrow $. $ he just gave me a few days ago!
Anyway, I like your thinking NYG....it's best to get to know the monster truck first before the road trip.
And a whole bunch of hot guys? I'll take it! For dancing purposes only of course.
You guys rock. I've been laughing which feels great.
Rain (moi): 40 Ex Fiance: 39 3 kids On/off again EA & PA Last BD by ow 12/15 Moved kids and myself back into our own place: 12/15
Dancing only? That's up to you. I just bring 'em to the dance. You get to decide what happens next!
I'm "home" in my new place. Drinking tequila, listening to Brandy Clark, swaying to the music.. You gotta listen to her. Trust me. She's country and her songs are our lives these days. "There's no crime of passion worth a crime of fashion. The only thing saving your life is that I don't look good in orange and I hate stripes."
Cooking dinner. Just for me and it's ok.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
Thanks...I'll check her out. That line about orange and stripes reminds me of my sisters motto. "You're just not worth the jail time" sigh. Enjoy your dinner NYG.
Rain (moi): 40 Ex Fiance: 39 3 kids On/off again EA & PA Last BD by ow 12/15 Moved kids and myself back into our own place: 12/15
MB there are stories here where the couple did not have contact at all. Some with kids even. But definitely some with out kids and a few with adult children.
But, since they never ever had any contact at all, how did it work out for them? Divorce? Reconciliation? Eternal Limbo?
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
The first month was minimal contact. From Mid aug through the end of october I was full no contact. When I say no contact, I mean no contact... nada. I ignored her bday. Then it was minimal contact through early December when I decided I would not initiate contact again.
What made you decide to go from minimal contact to no contact then back to minimal contact and then no contact again? Was it something that happened or were you just missing her?
Originally Posted By: pinn
She sent a flurry of texts around xmas, then stopped. I sent her a pretty generic one about taxes a few weeks later and she responded and seemed to want to talk more. But I let it go. Then last week she texted me with some temp checks, the first ones I have gotten.
If she responds and wants to communicate with you, why do you not respond at all? How did you know that she was temp checking? What if she is wanting to reestablish contact with you because she wants to reconcile, but now feels like the door is closed?
Originally Posted By: pinn
I had gone through this before with her (we were bf/gf) so I know how it works. I think you are mind reading too much..
When you went through it before, how long did it take you guys to end up back together? What happened that caused you to get back together? Are you still wanting to reconcile with her now, or are you done?
Sorry for all the questions, I really am just trying to figure out how this no contact think might work out one way or the other. Thanks for taking the time to respond to my message.
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
Pinn, I also wanted to tell you that I do plan to go back and read your thread. Thanks!
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
I'm in a no contact at all situation I still think about her everyday ive got to say the break has helped me see some of the negatives
like you I still have hope of reconciling but I'm working on what I'm willing to accept as reasonable behaviour. my counsellor told me some of the things that happened to me were emotional abuse and bullying.
I'm a good guy I'm caring kind generous loyal & funny. I'm also aware of my faults & failures. I'm working on better communication & anger managemenent.i also need to get better at saying no
the no contact has helped me focus on me and my welfare. this site and book has helped me stop being needy and pursuing and realise all I can do is be responsible for my own behaviour,actions & welfare
i also did what other posters have done & deleted facebook so i don't see updates and status
keep up with the GAL activities & focus on you. have fun!
Imlucky, I'm sorry that you're going through this too! How long has your NC been going on? I've been doing it off and on for about 3 1/2 months. This. Last time has been almost 3 weeks. It is so hard not to go over there. I have been GALing, but haven't really done as much for the last week. I need to get back to it and step it up. I think about him repeatedly every single day. I can try to get my mind off of it, but the thoughts just keep coming back. I wish that it helped to remind me of some of the negatives, but for the most part I think of the good things. Unlike him, I think he's thinking of only the bad. UGH! I hope this ends soon for all of us!!!
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
Ive been no contact for 4 weeks now. Similar to you she came back for 2 or 3 weeks talking about us and missing me then told me she couldnt do this anymore
I also have positives thoughts i really thought we could work things out with time and focussing on our positives and appreciating each other. I thought there were positive feelings to build on. I dont regret selling our home and living apart i didnt really have a choice and i did get all the debts paid out.
I dont know if we can work it out my counsellor has set a goal of july of working on me and working on learning to do things differently. Ive set a goal of no dating until something is decided. We have a 12 mth separation living apart period here before divorce can be granted. Im not going to stand in the way if she chooses that. Ive made my feelings known about us its time to try and let go
I just signed up to beginner ball room classes to get out and socialise and meet new people. That would be stepping out of my comfort zone. Wish me luck!
Me: 45 w:45
M:6yrs T:9 Separated aug 15 no contact dec 15 come back july 16 I filed for closure aug 16
MB there are stories here where the couple did not have contact at all. Some with kids even. But definitely some with out kids and a few with adult children.
But, since they never ever had any contact at all, how did it work out for them? Divorce? Reconciliation? Eternal Limbo?
Hey MB......this is from Mozzas thread. Its a long thread 81 pages I believe and it has links to her previous threads. I Didn't read it all. But they reconciled and have no children. Hope it helps and gives you hope.
Ive been no contact for 4 weeks now. Similar to you she came back for 2 or 3 weeks talking about us and missing me then told me she couldnt do this anymore
I also have positives thoughts i really thought we could work things out with time and focussing on our positives and appreciating each other. I thought there were positive feelings to build on. I dont regret selling our home and living apart i didnt really have a choice and i did get all the debts paid out.
I dont know if we can work it out my counsellor has set a goal of july of working on me and working on learning to do things differently. Ive set a goal of no dating until something is decided. We have a 12 mth separation living apart period here before divorce can be granted. Im not going to stand in the way if she chooses that. Ive made my feelings known about us its time to try and let go
I just signed up to beginner ball room classes to get out and socialise and meet new people. That would be stepping out of my comfort zone. Wish me luck!
It is weird how they all seem to act the same isn't it. I was doing better, but just can't seem to get my feet back under me after he dropped me for the second time. Just so hard. I hate that we are all going through this. Just so much pain to deal with on a daily basis. I'm glad you're going to IC, I'm doing that as well. 2 weeks ago I told him that I didn't wan't to talk about my marriage anymore, I just wanted to focus on fixing myself. I think he forgot that last week...or, maybe I just wouldn't shut up, but either way, we haven't started working in me yet. We should start that on Wednesday and I look forward to it.
Good luck on your dance lessons. I have actually called around looking for some lessons myself. Figured it would make everyone I dance with happier because I won't be stepping on them so much. LOL. You'll have to let us know how the dancing goes. .
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
