Good for you Feyth, keep up the PMA. It does feel great to get your power back, doesn't it? I am working on that, getting close! Hope you are having a great weekend!
Hope everyone is well- I'd like to ask for some feedback.
H put an offer on the table in terms of what he wants to offer me in a potential MSA. He thinks he's being very generous. He doesn't want lawyers involved and doesn't think we should go through an official filing, just submit a MSA so it can't be reversed in the actual divorce.
He got super defensive about me just wanting what is fair stating that it's just going to mess everything up, even mentioning that I may have to pay him SS. He put his "settlement" offer on the table and said I need to let him know if I want it by today otherwise it's off the table for good because he has decisions he needs to make.
Aside from the fact that this is controlling and assanine, I'm wondering if I should even respond? I ask because not responding and ignoring an issue, thus hoping it would go away would be totally predictable of the old Feyth. The new Feyth doesn't bury issues. So, do you think a text would suffice?
I want to be snarky and educate him on relationships... Cuz this is a pattern that he needs to change..... But I wont!!!
Gah- the controlling thing. Blech! Why would I want that back? It reminds of how sh**ty things were a year and a half ago when he would say stuff like, if we're not pregnant in two months, there's no point in being married. See back then, I would be passive aggressive and ignore it because I couldn't handle being controlled and didn't know how to stick up for myself either. Ohhhh, but I promise you that will NEVER be me again!
Me- 30's H- 40's T-10 M-5 I moved out b/c he wanted space- June 15 D filed by H: September 16
Oh and for the record above- I am not signing the MSA and I'm not agreeing to his proposal. not signing and not agreeing doesn't mean I'm going to scr*w him in court, but I just won't allow him to control this/ me. Just wasn't sure if I should let him know by his deadline ( as ignoring it would be same ol' Feyth from before BD)
Me- 30's H- 40's T-10 M-5 I moved out b/c he wanted space- June 15 D filed by H: September 16
If it were me, I would respond with a simple "No, I don't agree with your settlement offer." And I would send it TOMORROW after his deadline, not today. How dare he try to bully you into agreeing to something that important without giving you time to think about it or even make a counter offer. if he wants to keep it out of the courts, he needs to loose the "It's my way or the highway" attitude and work towards an agreement with you, not try to dictate one. Glad you're standing your ground. Don't let him push you around.
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
