Funny how I see my own life in all of your posts. Am I the only one who sees this? The whole business is just so messy.
I do. I hear my story in so many other people's words when I read them. It's like we all have the same miserable playbook and our spouses are following it to the letter. I'm ready for them to all get a new and BETTER playbook. This one is getting really old!
I am so sorry that your night out with your friend turned into a bad experience for you. Might be a good idea to set some ground rules first before going out with anyone from that circle again. Just tell them right up front that you don't want to talk about or hear anything about your wife or the OM. If they don't respect that, then when they bring one of them up, just firmly remind them that you are trying to move on and don't want to hear about them.
I hope you are getting some sleep tonight. Let us know how you're doing.
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
Wow, I guess I should go see that movie today! Come on MB, I'll meet you at 2. Oh, and when you want to drive by the house, call me. I might be out driving past all the coffee shops in town, especially if it's a Sunday morning. I've done that the last two weeks, but don't tell anyone. It was one of our favorite things to do -- get lattes and read the Sunday newspaper.
Sorry, I just saw your message. I was still asleep at 2 because I'm working tonight. Didn't mean to stand you up on our movie outing!
Sigh....I can so relate to you driving by the coffee places. STOP IT! Don't get sucked into doing that like I do. It's a very hard habit to break. I have driven by soooo many places just looking for his truck. I never find him. And, even if I did, then what? Not really like he would be all excited to see me!
I hope you're doing okay. Let us know how it's going.
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
So sorry to hear about that Shotgun. I think you are doing the right thing by waiting for divorce before introducing someone to your son. It's nice to read that some people still have values. You are a very good man, and you are sticking to your values! I'm so proud of you!
I wanted to see the film but I guess I'll give it a pass. I was reading an article that the 3rd Monday in January is a gloom day as it's when a lot of people spilt up. So I guess that's why we are all down.
So? Was there anything unnatural going on between the bear and the man, Shotgun? I'll never see the movie - not my kind of thing. But there are rumors going around that at one point in the movie, the bear had his way with the man. Any truth to those rumors? LMAO
. I was reading an article that the 3rd Monday in January is a gloom day as it's when a lot of people spilt up.
Did it say WHY the 3rd Monday in Jan. Is a gloom day? I guess I'm glad that I slept through most of it!
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
MB, apparently there was some research done on that 3rd Monday in January and it seems to be true. The study doesn't say why there are so many separation.
Just got home from work and I'm sitting here on my bed wishing I could go to sleep. Have to stay awake to take son to work in an hour and a half. UGH! Had a Dr appt yesterday ...thought I was okay, but as soon as she asked me how I was, I broke down and started crying. How embarrasing! After that appointment, I went to work and worked all night. I was called off the night before. Not sure where they think I'm going to get $$ from if they don't let me work! Anyway, wasn't a bad night, but I had to stop and work on my breathing/calming down a few times to keep the tears from flowing. Got off work this morning and thought I was fine, then out of nowhere the tears started flowing again. What the heck? I just suddenly started feeling like the loneliest most uncared about and isolated person in the whole world. Finally pulled myself together and came in the house. My youngest was being nice (unusual for her), then I realized it was because she wanted to tell me that she got a ticket yesterday for expired car registration. Seriously?! My car registration went out at the end of December but I can't get it renewed because my car won't pass inspection - front tires don't have enough tread and I don't have the money to get the new tires. So now, on top of the tires for my car and registration for the 2 vehicles, I also get to pay for a ticket. And, I get to pay for it all with a job that keeps calling me off and not letting me get my hours in. At some point in time God is going to remember that he likes me and CUT ME A BREAK!
I do know that there are others on this forum that have financial problems way worse than mine, but I just feel like I'm drowning over here. It frustrates me to no end that H has money, but I sit over here unable to pay my bills while he is wasting his money on a trashy OW instead of helping his wife. Great...now I guess I will sit here and cry some more. Please God make this stop.
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
Yes, please God, make this stop. I'm at work, in a seminar, in the same building as OW, and I have to say something fun about myself next. I hope I don't cry.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
I cried. And ironically the seminar is emotional intelligence. And the OW heads this friggin department. I'm a mess.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
