Wake up Hairdog--I think you got some of the posts mixed up. In my and AtlantaDave's defense, I am stating for the record that we are not sharing any rings of any kind!
LG--who does not care for bunnies in the slightest.
A blessed and happy marriage is a union of two forgivers and Him, because...a cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:12.
Hey, Hairdog, get the hair out of your eyes and read more carefully. It's not Dave talking to her about rings, it's me--and we are not sharing, I simply offered to pick one up (new and unused) and mail it to her. We know each other, she would not be comfortable going to the store, I would be.... so don't get your shorts in a wad.
LG is a very nice woman, but not my type, so we won't be sharing toys. Just info and support.
Grrrrrr.
Never try to teach a pig to sing. It wastes your time, and annoys the pig.
The boy's eyes just crossed one too many times thinking about what we talk about in here... Poor fella, most of us are in the same boat..without and few if any prospects.
I don't know anyone that can think straight in the state of deprivation. Okay, we can dream of "straight" but it still makes our little minds wander....
For the record again I wish to state that I do not share any toys with anyone other than my H. And those toys that I share with him will ALWAYS start out brand-new!!
Egad! The idea of the other is simply blech...
A blessed and happy marriage is a union of two forgivers and Him, because...a cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:12.
A word about having an affair. When in a long term SSM one tends to "look around". A couple of years ago I used to chat up every woman I liked the look of. I didn't know the technical term then but I was looking for an HD. Eventually I found one and became enfatuated with her. W found out about OW (I told her) and my fling had to end - I couldn't face losing my children (or W). The trouble was OW didn't want it to end and wanted to stay friends (so did I really) and it ended during it's euphoric phase. It just ended while I was still on a high. The trouble is I am still on the high deep down (and wondering whether she is too) so my advice is don't look for another woman if what you really want is your W because you will probably mess yourself up. I still feel her magnetic pull. SD
Thank you for your post. The magnetic pull that you feel for your exOW is the exact reason that Dr. Harley states in his books and on his website that it is imperative that the OW/OM be removed from the life completely of the adulterer so that the adulterer's marriage can have a chance to be restored and healed.
This is something that my H and I are struggling with right now in our marriage. We are working on reconciliation and it is going very well, and my H has ended his personal relationship with the OW. It did not end at a true high, but instead he was starting to realize that it was not a healthy relationship. He would probably continue it however, if allowed to do so at this time, even though he wants to restore our marriage.
The OW is also his very capapble and talented business manager and has really been an asset to his company. I am having to decide if I can accept her continuing on as his business manager. My H and I have discussed if this would be possible. I think it might be, but we have many things to work out. I told him up front that if OW does continue on in a business relationship with him, I will leave the M immediately if I suspect or discover more deceit and betrayal from him. We will see.
LG
A blessed and happy marriage is a union of two forgivers and Him, because...a cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:12.
