I just looked it up to be sure, and boy! Did I make a discovery. I can't believe how many websites have it wrong...that is so bad. No wonder you got confused! Most of them list it that way - but it's wrong.
I can confirmed Ancaire's translation is spot on :-)! It always makes me laugh when some of my students tried to translate something and it comes out wrong! I love it!
Don't worry Shotgun, I can't hold it against you! You are showing interest in my mother tongue, and it's more than H has ever done for me!
I'll take the first flight for Indiana tomorrow :-). Hope the rest of the day has been great for you. Enjoy your time with your son :-)
OK Rouky I will be much more careful in the future. I was relying on my lap top translator. Now I wish that I had tried harder in the French classes I had in high school. I've been taking Spanish because it is the only thing offered in my small town. But I can see that I have work to do if I am to impress you. My niece downloaded a language translator on my phone last night but I haven't tried it yet. I think that I will.
I hope that you are having a good weekend Rouky and I will be a good boy from now on!
M:53 W:47 M:15 years. S:18 S's: 30 & 28 from previous marriage. BD: 3/14 Divorced January 17.
Shotgun, you are probably right in that he doesn't deserve me. I put up with a LOT of his jealousy and insecurity issues because I completely broke his heart many years ago when I dumped him. I'm talking about devastated him. I KNOW that I should not have to pay for that now, but that is why I have always thought he never trusted me to stay. As it turned out, HE was the one that didn't stay. Weird huh? He has always had the I better get you before you get me attitude. Well, not always, just since I married him.
As far as H knows, I am a master DBer....well, except that he doesn't know that I'm DBing. He has no idea that I'm checking on him. I KNOW that I am hurting myself by doing so because whatever I do doesn't affect him or the fun he's having, it won't change anything, it just makes me sad and hurt more. I really do get it. It's more like an obsession now. It's like I just HAVE to know and can't take my mind off of it until I do. I know I have to get past the checking and believe it or not, I am actually better. Lol. I do everything else right, or at least I think I do. I am doing a 180. I have gone dark. I a making myself better...I walk for relaxation, I have lost weight, I have started wearing makeup, I have bought and always wear my new clothes, I have gone NC AGAIN (9 days now), I am GALing my heart out (went dancing last night!!!!!), etc. WHAT ELSE CAN I DO? The only thing I haven't mastered is the detachment and as I said before, I only go by late when he would be asleep so he doesn't even know that part. He is unaware of my sadness and despair, and I intend for it to remain that way. If you have any other suggestions, I'm all ears! I will continue to work on the detachment that still eludes me.
Oh, and the part that I forgot, I'm going to IC. I will start working on myself with the IC this coming week instead of my marriage that I can't fix. If I heal my wounds and start believing that I actually deserve to be happy or deserve to be loved, then he may not have a wife to come back to when he pulls his head out! I know that I am nice to the point of being a doormat and I don't like it. I am SO tired of doing for everyone else and taking care of everyone while not one single person tries to help ME or take care of ME. I have been taking care of people my entire life, I want someone to be there for ME now. I want it to be my turn. I know that I can make someone disgustingly happy, but in return I want them to think I'm the greatest thing in the world. Right now, the H that I have never finds anything nice to say about me. He tears me down to make himself feel better. He basically thinks I'm a lying, cheating, untrustworthy person that is too stupid to take care of myself, handle money or finances, pay bills, bad mother, lazy, etc, etc, etc. I am NONE of those things and I shouldn't have to defend myself to him. He's the only person in my life that thinks I'm a bad person. Yet I still want him. I am messed up and damaged and I have no self esteem. Those 2 things are accurate and they are the only things he doesn't accuse me of. My poor IC has his work cut out for him!
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
And btw, LOL on your translation Shotgun. Made me laugh!
M:45 H:48 M:11 No kids BD:Sept'15 EA:Confirmed 1wk later PA: Oct'15 12 '15 2 wk R Just kidding, H wants NC 12 '15 H back w/OW 4 '15 R &still working on it
I have a big confession to make to you Shotgun, I speak a third language: it's Spanish! I though you'll try to impress me with Spanish but I'm very proud of you doing it in French :-)
MB I would hate to be your IC! I think that you have the answers but you need a professional to force you to give them. They are really good at making us see reality. It isn't fun but it is necessary. Know with a certainty that I am here as is everyone else here and we will take care of you through this. I'll just save your therapist the energy by insisting that you stop driving by the house of the guy that is treating you like a doormat. I hope that you are able to connect with the thought of him being that far from you causes you to pursue. Your job is to turn the tables. Easy for me to say because I can't do it either but I have reached the point where I do not want to look at her. God Bless you MB (Got to tell you that your initials are perfect). I once was more concerned with concealing my identity here but WTF! How big of a jerk can I be if I am trying to save my marriage? I am not ashamed of that!
M:53 W:47 M:15 years. S:18 S's: 30 & 28 from previous marriage. BD: 3/14 Divorced January 17.
