D - I love the idea of volunteering, and I am working towards being able to do it. Right now? No. I can't stand upright for more than 15-20 minutes at a time, but it is a definite goal of mine. I truly enjoy people, and think it would be a good use of my time.
SciDad - You are absolutely right. He does not act any way except friendly and nice when others are around. He saves Mr. Hateful for me alone, maybe so others will think I'm crazy. He cares a lot about what others think of him.
When he informed me about his relatives in Kansas seeing me on the news, his point of view was that I'd ruined his reputation. That's it. No concern for me, and my reputation at all. He's mad because they all know he's a cheater. That is his one and only concern.
I'm beginning to like him less and less. I still care, but this selfish side of him? I really don't care for it at all, and now I keep seeing shades of it in our past - it just wasn't such a big issue then. I hope he isn't lost permanently in this new persona.
Not a thing I can do about it, except let him work it out for himself. I pray for him. That's really all I can do.
D - Oh! I watched the webinar - it was okay. It was mainly a sales pitch for her new program, but as I was looking over her Facebook page, I saw that quote, and loved it. It really is where I'm at in my life right now.
Surrender to What Is: I am on my own right now. I have lots of work I need to do on myself to become the best person I can be.
Let Go of What Was: My marriage is over, done. I can't help H. He has to help himself.
Have Faith in What Will Be: I don't know what the future will bring. I have no say. But I do believe God loves me. I do believe He can make something beautiful from ashes. I have faith that my life will work out exactly as it should, and in a way that will leave me speechless with awe in His power.
That is exactly how that quote spoke to me. Let Go. Let God.
ancaire I am catching up to your stitch. I just want to wish you the best of luck in court. I for one am nervous when i head to court again on feb25 but this time accusing my wife on domestic violence and hitting my daughters. But i am only speaking the truth, and like they say "the truth will set you free". Dont be afraid about speaking the truth in court, just talk firmly and confident.
I feel the same way like you, I am so ready to get this over with. I dont love this selfish woman anymore. The pain becomes numb and you start thinking " I dont think there's nthing else this person can do to hurt me". best of luck ancaire
Just passing thru, wanted to say hi. Enjoy the day Ancaire. Fill it with joy and beauty. These are the things that should be in your life. Haters will hate, walk away.
SciDad - You are absolutely right. He does not act any way except friendly and nice when others are around. He saves Mr. Hateful for me alone, maybe so others will think I'm crazy. He cares a lot about what others think of him.
Your H and mine are so, so alike! My H is always so concerned about what others think of him. He ALWAYS has to look like Mr nice guy! Even our S has noticed that H treats him differently when around others to how he treats him at home and that makes me so sad for my S.
Originally Posted By: Ancaire
When he informed me about his relatives in Kansas seeing me on the news, his point of view was that I'd ruined his reputation. That's it. No concern for me, and my reputation at all. He's mad because they all know he's a cheater. That is his one and only concern.
I would say I can't believe it, except I can, sounds exactly like my H. When I discovered H's letter to OW (he thing that has done more damage to our M than anything else) a few years ago and stayed the night at my parent's house, all H was bothered about the next day was the fact that I'd told my parents!! He actually said that now I'd told them we couldn't stay together because his Mr nice guy image was in tatters!
Originally Posted By: Ancaire
I'm beginning to like him less and less. I still care, but this selfish side of him? I really don't care for it at all, and now I keep seeing shades of it in our past - it just wasn't such a big issue then. I hope he isn't lost permanently in this new persona.
This speaks so much to me too! I think it is inevitable that we will start to feel this way. Now that I have more than enough time to sit and ponder our past I look back and see so many selfish actions that I didn't even bat an eyelid to at the time. Now it is all becoming clear and I feel like a fool for not seeing my H for who he really is all those years ago.
