Gmum, you have to follow your heart. Don't let the hate consume you. Hate is an active emotion needing a lot of energy. Indifference is a much better choice if love and compassion are out of the question. Please don't let this process define you, your better than that. Be strong
Gmum - I went back and forth over a L. All I can say is, I am so happy I got one! When it comes to money, WAS can be unreasonable. I would have been out on the streets by now, if H had his way.
I understand that the H's are different - but it is a huge peace of mind knowing that there is someone who is solely looking after my best interests. There are times I would have thrown in the towel, and given up - but she wouldn't let him intimidate me. She's going to make sure I at least have enough to start a new life with.
If your H starts to get the littlest bit funny about money...run, don't walk, and find yourself a L asap. This is your life you're negotiating! He's concerned about OW. Maybe his daughter. Do you even make his Top 10 list? Be very, very careful, ok?
Ancaire's advice is on the money. Your priority needs to be you and your D. He is forcing you to leave the country -- I don't think coexisting with you is his priority.
You likely need someone on your side. I hope you haven't signed the divorce papers yet. Please be careful.
