Anc, Tx, Sotto, Mu. Thank you I want you all to know your support and advice is so important to me. I replied to H simply with. I don't have the papers please consult your lawyer. He promptly forwarded that to OW and proceeded to call me a b...ch. He has never spoken this way to me or about me EVER. I am hurt and shocked. I know I shouldn't be because he is in the affair fog but.... I am shocked. That is not who he is. When did he come to hate me?
He has to "hate" you. That is the only way that they can justify to themselves the horrible treatment they dole out to the ones that loved, trusted and cherished them the most. Remember this says nothing about you, it only reflects about him and his OW.
*hugs*
Di-mond in the rough M-45 H-38 My children S-25 D-23 T 5 M 4 H left April Fools Day 2015
Jpeg, Di is right. He is trying to justify his own behavior. I am sorry your day is tough, a jog sounds good! I don't think I could live in Canada, I am freezing my butt off here and it is 40 degrees. I hope the jog clears your mind!
I'm in no contact to protect my feelings and to focus on my well being I don't want to go back to the rollercoaster anymore I've decided she left for her reasons and the marriage history has been rewritten to suit and that if she wants out I'm not going to fight it. I'm learning to set appropriate boundaries and if we are to R they will be on the table.
Me: 45 w:45
M:6yrs T:9 Separated aug 15 no contact dec 15 come back july 16 I filed for closure aug 16
Hi Imlucky - you are definitely stronger than me. I am still holding onto the belief that we were the perfect couple. I cannot believe what is happening. So yeah I'm stuck for sure. I am happier than I was a year ago. But I'm not detached in the least
I don't think I'm stronger I think I'm getting caught up with the I don't know what I want and coming over for a period then going no contact. Last time it threw me right back to analysing everything that my counsellor was telling me I'm doing it to myself
My w knows I'm open to working on issues and I believed we could sort them and be better. It's hard when the history is rewritten and there is constant negativity
I don't believe things will be better on going our own way but I'm not going to beg or pleas anymore. I did all that the start and I reckon everyone is does it. I did struggling at Christmas missing all the stuff we used to do & the traditions
I'm going to honour my marraige vows until the end and remain loyal & faithful. After that I don't know but the time now is being used on me and learning about boundaries that look after my well being
Me: 45 w:45
M:6yrs T:9 Separated aug 15 no contact dec 15 come back july 16 I filed for closure aug 16
Hi Imlucky - you are definitely stronger than me. I am still holding onto the belief that we were the perfect couple. I cannot believe what is happening. So yeah I'm stuck for sure.
Jpeg, I can relate to your comment. I thought we were a pretty ideal couple, too. But then the OW came along and my W jumped ship. And now we are apart. I have to hold onto hope that being apart might help and that she'll miss me and OW will mess up and... I know I'm not supposed to think like this.
The whole idea of NC and GAL is hard to fathom, but even if it doesn't bring us back together in a new relationship, it will make us (on this thread) stronger. That's what I'm counting on.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
