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Hope you had a great time for your birthday!

Happy Birthday!

Thank you all...

I had a nice day. Had a nice dinner with some friends, then we went to a quiet bar and had some more wine.

No flirt though. Bummer, haha.

Today D and I saw some friends we haven't seen in a while. We went to a museum then went out for pizza and a drink. They paid because of my birthday yesterday, feel so spoiled.
H didn't get me anything from D. Well, they did get me some gross cupcakes, so that was nice. And he did tell me, as he dropped off the divorce papers the other day, that I could buy something for myself.

Tomorrow he will take her for a few hours during the day. Then at nights it's just me and my baby. Not sure exactly what we will be doing, but I'm pretty sure I'll be here once she goes to bed.

What is everyone else doing?

Gmum, your day sounds great! I don't even want to say what I was doing on my birthday.

Since your H suggested, why don't you go get something nice for yourself? The X didnt even remember or acknowledge my bday.

It's now NYE over here. I am having kid for day, the X is having her for dinner and then it's me and kid against the lice again.

A funeral during the day and DB here at night. A perfect end for a perfect year.

Mutatio,
Sorry to hear about the funeral.

Me too, Mutatio.

Grlonfr, I hope you had fun ringing in the new year.

I moved from Shotgun to you Gmum.

First thing first: you are not the baddy in your M. Your H is putting the blame on you as he needs to get rid of his guilty feeling! So by blaming you he finds a justification for doing what he is doing. It took me 9 months to realise that we all are responsible for our decisions! And it also takes 2 to tango, so your H is also partly responsible for what is happening.


Secondly when things get though, ask for help from God. It has to come from within. I can't explain why or how, but for the last 2 days I have felt protected and serene. I have been praying a lot recently. Not to restore my M but to guide me and walk alongside me for this powerful journey.

Thirdly I'm not jealous so I will, like Shotgun, be with you whenever you need me too. Happy New Year Gmum, May 2016 be OUR year :-)

Thank you, Rouky.

I did put a LOT of stress on him unfairly by letting bear the burden of making money almost solely. I never made much and had periods of making nothing.
There's obviously a lot more to our situation, but I now know he harbors so much resentment because of that. Rightfully so.
I've also been angry at him for many many years for other reason, so I'm not the only bad guy. Just the biggest bad guy.

I'm coming to terms with the fact that happiness comes from within. I can't buy it, it doesn't come in the form in an R, only I am responsible for it. But it's a new way of thinking, so it'll take some time.

Mostly I just have fear of the future. Making money, parenting and doing it almost solo. THAT scares me. If my job plans fall through I am absolutely clueless as to what I'm going to do. They have to work out. Then I'll be fine.

I'm starting to get a little more excited to move back to Europe. I really need to get away from H. Being closer to my sibling will be nice too.

Rouky, thank you so much for being active on my thread. I can't express how much I appreciate your support.

Happy New Year, Gmum!

I have a fear of the future too. I don't know how I am going to do this alone. In fact, I thought that I was never going to be lonely anymore.

The unknown is so scary, isn't it?

But we can do it!