After sharing my life for nearly nine moths on here, I think it's time for a little break. I will keep looking in on everybody, but I won't be updating as much as before.
So, here's where we're at. I am GAL'ing as much as possible and have now booked a holiday to Hong Kong in March. I've always dreamed of going, so I am.
My W has asked if she can spend Christmas Day at my flat. I've said yes, but have no expectations. I don't know if she's finally feeling loss, or the reality of her temporary accommodation being a sh1thole, and she doesn't want to stay there. The kids have been spending a lot of time here, which is good.
My SD has been struggling with the situation, and gets upset when she has to leave my flat. W's mother and sister are here for a few days.
Did I think I would be living like this last December? No. Did I think I could cope? No, but I am. And if nothing else, that's an achievement!
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Huddy thank you for sharing your life and evolution with me/us. I have learned a lot about how to be a good man from your postings. I wish you good luck. Please don't disappear completely without saying good bye. Godspeed Huddy
Good luck Huddy and thanks for all your advice on my sitch
Me49 W45 T15 M13 S11 S8 BD 11/15/11 & 3/27/12 Moved out 4/9/12 Moved back 4/23/12 W working on US 5/20/12 Now Piecing! May-Oct14 drifting Dec 14 W agrees to more QT BD Oct15 ILYBINILWY W filed 1/25/16
Good luck, Huddy! Your progress definitely gives me hope. I know, on an intellectual level, this will pass, but right now it just seems so far off. How nice to think one day I will be just fine and looking forward to tomorrows again. Just need to keep putting one foot in front of the other until I'm there.
Hong Kong? Enjoy! What a fabulous adventure! Please come back and tell us all about it?
Did I think I would be living like this last December? No. Did I think I could cope? No, but I am. And if nothing else, that's an achievement!
Yes, it is an achievement in the face of adversity but you emerged from it stronger and more in control of yourself. And that's the secrete to all of this I think.
I never in a million years thought I'd be in this position either. I keep getting time hops from as little as two years ago and man, it was a different world back then. For me it all went wrong so quickly. For my ExW I'm not sure. At BD she said she had been feeling that way for a number of years but if that were true she hid it well, really well.
Anyway I'm not hear to talk about me or my sitch. Just to drop in and say well done mate. Keep it up.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Definitely mate. I'll come east this time. I'll need to check my schedule with S10 before I can get dates.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Hi Huddy, I'm a little late to the party, but I just wanted to wish you well. I'm interested to read your update. For all that your W wanted to S, she seems to be spending quite a bit of time with you!
Who knows, it may just be home comforts or the dire nature of her current living arrangements. However, I would carry on as you are and see where it takes you. I think as long as your focus is on rebuilding and extending your own life - but accommodating W where it is in the interests of the family - then all sounds good.
I understand a break from the board may be a good plan.....but do come back at some point with an update my friend.
Take care and have a lovely Xmas xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
