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So I have 2 weeks until D Day.

I'm really trying to use my actions to show WW she has lost me. No contact. No reaching out. Very few words when I saw her Wednesday night/Thursday morning.

Went out with friends last night and did not return home. I know she'll assume I'm shacking up with someone. If this doesn't show her she lost me there's really no more I can do.

Gs9, I think that you are doing the best thing possible. I know it's rough. Basically the same thing I am doing, although I don't know when mine will be final. My W still thinks we will be friends too. Not what I want either.

Be as strong as you can. Be a great dad. I wish you the best!

thank you dday. coming here daily has been a lot of help.

Keep on keepin on

just had a wonderful daddy daughter date with D4. We saw the good dinosaur at a theater you can order dinner. I love spending time with her. Just absorbing every little conversation she wants to have.

WW is out. I'd be surprised if she comes home. I've been crying a lot more lately. D4 asked me to stop crying earlier from the back seat on the way to the movies. I think these next 2 weeks will be tough and then I don't know how long she'll be in the house until she moves out. I would like her out immediately but I have to wait for the divorce decree to refi the house and get her off title. Then I have to get a second mortgage to pay her part of the equity. I know she doesn't plan on moving twice and it's legally her house too until I get her off the title. UGH!!!! May have to tolerate her still in the house until the new year. I guess it would be better for the kids if we do Christmas together but if she goes through with the D I want her gone.

WW came home about 11. D4 and I were in bed sleeping. She kissed D4 goodnight. Then she came to my side of the bed. Leaned over me, kissed my cheek, and said good night I love you. I said I love you too. We snuggled for a couple minutes. She then said " I better go to bed." I said "good night"

Weird

Gs9, please remember... no expectations. Hope is good, but try not to let the bad get you too far down.

Wishing you the best!

How can she possibly feel she is losing you when you tell her ILY and then snuggle with her? Seriously! It's basic DBing.

So should I be unloving? I know the ILY statement was a mistake. I'm having trouble with the balance.

Would a "man only a fool would leave" be mean to her? Kick her out of bed? Not return a hug? It's so confusing.

She just walked up and wrapped her arms around me again. please help I only have 12 more days until D day

Gs9. I can't offer good advice, since I'm probably not much farther from d myself. But, I wish you the best! Be strong!

Thanks dday

I'm guessing. Do I return the hug but not let it linger? Cutting off the hug early? Do I snuggle her back and then ask her to leave the bed? Do I just look at her when she says I love you?

As I typing this I'm hearing myself say Yes, yes, yes, yes.

Anyone else wanna chime in?