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I think it is a combination of jealousy and feeling the grip of control slipping. The WW sees it this way, "It is okay for me to dump you and replace you. However, you cannot even look at another woman........although I may say I want you to move on, I really don't mean it. You cannot replace me with another woman. I intend to control you, so you will be there for me to use, however I see fit".


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Thanks Sandi, I always look forward to your posts. This is definitely her to a "T"

I'm not going to miss the craziness of the last 8 years. I am going to miss the good times.

Less than 24 hours til the D


Me 40
WW 41
D 4
S 12
S 14
BD 6.16.2015
W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15
W Filed Divorce 9.14.15
My ring off 11.15.15
D finalized 12.18.15
WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place

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Just reading today's devotional and thought I would share

" Procrastination hurts people- laziness prevents us from being loving. Love requires commitment, energy and work. A lot of people just don't want to work at being loving; it's easier to be lazy. Many marriages break up because one spouse - perhaps both spouses - are unwilling to make the effort necessary to save the marriage. "


Me 40
WW 41
D 4
S 12
S 14
BD 6.16.2015
W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15
W Filed Divorce 9.14.15
My ring off 11.15.15
D finalized 12.18.15
WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place

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Whenever someone had asked me about what it takes to make a marriage successful, I always said it takes work.

I wish I would have followed my own advice for the first 15 years.


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M15 T17
D20, S19, D13
M - Addiction since 1998
W EA/PA #1 2013/2014
W EA #2 June 2015...
BD 1 Big D talk 9/15
BD 2 - EA/PA disc 10/30/15
Served D 1/22/16
Divorced 5/25/16 (yes, that fast!)
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stay strong today. Know it is happening for a reason and if you want it to work it is still possible.


M 37
W 34

T 12
M 8
D 7
S 4

Need break 4/12/15
W no ring 7/7/15

Separate room 4/12/15
Separate living suggested 8/15
W moved out 11/1/15
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G, I hope you find something to do today to take your mind off things. That was an awesome and timely devotional.

Find something fun.

Good luck


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G,

Hang in there bro. Just said a prayer for you as well. Peace be with you.

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Sending you strength today G, breathe through it.

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Wow! Thank you everyone for the well wishes and prayers. I'm single again. It was about a 7 minute process. I really feel at peace about it at this time. I'm sure I have been bouncing in and out of the "acceptance" phase of grieving.


Me 40
WW 41
D 4
S 12
S 14
BD 6.16.2015
W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15
W Filed Divorce 9.14.15
My ring off 11.15.15
D finalized 12.18.15
WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place

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Keep up the pma. Your future is unknown, and I am sure it will be filled with great people and great events.

Have as good a day as you can!


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