Don't panic When backsliding happens, pick yourself up and begin again. I know, easier said than done. Focus on being the best Hens you can be so you can move forward in a positive way.
It is easy to be conflicted when you have so many emotions and thoughts going through your head!
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I am finding hard to keep calm.. when situations like this come up. He keeps pressing button to get a reaction. This morning in the train i was very calm and composed and wasn't giving him any time of the day. Just reading my book and he got very uneasy you could see it .
And thats when he decided to snoop to see what I was reading. I know there will be some backlash at home
Me- 36 H 32 S - two weeks M 5 yrs in Feb 2 months sleeping in different rooms
I responded that it was for me .. to cope with the situation ... and left it at that .I will say nothing and do nothing as you said its best remaining still. I am sure he must be fuming !! post of my Db forum is on my work computer .. so I don't think it will be any issue.
Me- 36 H 32 S - two weeks M 5 yrs in Feb 2 months sleeping in different rooms
I have another question... when at home .. how do I behave while doing the LRT.. I generally have been going into my own bedroom and doing my own thing. and then saying goodnight and going off to sleep before him. I know its beginning to worry him as he hates silent treatment .. But its also annoying him.
Me- 36 H 32 S - two weeks M 5 yrs in Feb 2 months sleeping in different rooms
I have another question... when at home .. how do I behave while doing the LRT.. I generally have been going into my own bedroom and doing my own thing. and then saying goodnight and going off to sleep before him. I know its beginning to worry him as he hates silent treatment .. But its also annoying him.
Generally let him control the contact, however there is nothing wrong with saying that as long as he is in contact with OW you do not want to have a relationship with him.(Boundary)
Other than that I think what you are doing is fine, get on living your life without him.
When backsliding happens, pick yourself up and begin again. I know, easier said than done. Focus on being the best Hens you can be so you can move forward in a positive way. 