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Im not sure. I feel like if money werent so tight (i am a sahm right now) that it would be nice to join a gym. I am not happy with the weight i have gained..plus i could meet people.

Ive always loved to read and havent in 2 years.

At this point I can barely keep my head above water so it's hard to think of anything else.

Thanks
Rain

I posted a reply to pink and one to you. The one to you isn't available. Maybe it will come up in a few minutes.

I was at least not crying so far this morning even though I am finding it hard to breathe normally and function. But this is a text i got....

I don't want to fight with you anymore. And I am sorry for the pain I caused you. But I want you to just let me be.

I haven't contacted him so why would he text me anyway? And again knowing the ow is getting texts like......baby please im so sorry. Please stop ignoring me. I know i hurt you but I love you more than anyone. I can't stop thinking of you and knowing your sad because of me....well then his words to me seem like a brush off and just something to add in before telling me to leave him alone.

Now I'm a mess again and have to take care of the kids.

He just had the audacity to leave me a voicemail saying he wants to live in peace and if that means changing his number or moving he will. And that to be very clear if he wanted to be with ow he would be with her. He never wanted to be. He knows he lied and said things to her that made it seem like he did but he didn't or he would have been. then he signed off with....leave him alone so he can finally be happy (he is the one calling and texting me though) and only contact him him about what the kids need or if there is anything he can do to make them happy and make their lives better.

Twilight zone. Im so upset and hurt and all he thinks about is himself.

How can there be hope for our R now when he keeps lying to me and being so cold while he keeps trying to fix things with ow?

If it wasn't for my being able to post here and vent (huge THANK YOU) i would have called him and tore him a new one a few times this morning. He just sent me a screen shot of a few texts he sent ow on the day it all came out where he told her he can't believe what shes done and that he never wants to speek to her again. Funny he is pretending he hasn't been trying to get her back after that initial reaction.

Im ao sick of him and his lies.

What is happening? Another text.. this one stating i am no longer allowed to use any of his accounts when i shop online for our kids. He is cutting me out of his life so easily yet he broke up our family because of his inability to cut ow out of his life.

It makes no sense to me but then again none of it ever has.

This is all called cake eating.

He is delusional enough to think that he can have both of you.

You need proper boundaries.

Have you spoken to a lawyer?

Thank you cadet...that makes total sense. In his twisted world the kids and I are the cake. Stable and filling and ow is the frosting. Sweet and he can't get enough.

I am proud of myself. I've not responded to anything. He wants me to leave him alone, which I have after our last blow out yesterday and yet he keeps contacting me to be mean. I just don't get that.

If you finally have what youve wanted all along then why are you so focused on continuing to hurt me? Haven't you dont enough of that?

That is what I would have answered to him if not for this forum. So so glad I found this forum. It's a blessing to me.

No on the L. In one of his rants he told me to tell him how much I need monthly to maintain myself and the kids. He already knows the answer as we have been living separately. He's never given me a problem about money except during my pregnancy.

He also ranted via text that he wants to give me extra money to make the kids Christmas nice because he wants them to have a great and enjoyable life even if he is not around.

Throwing money at the problem to ease his guilt