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You don't need to tell her how you know she is in contact with OM. You can say you just know.

Well, you got some time to think through what you're going to do. Be Strong and direct in your actions.

Remember: Actions are strong, words are weak, and doing nothing is approval.

Also remember: Believe nothing they say and only half what they do.

Thanks mvgfwd2 i apreciate all the kind support and advice. Looks like shes not lying this time called the hotel where the dinner happened and they told me dinner was still going on and scheduled to end at 11:00. Wife texted 5 minutes after i called the hotel and said she was on route home.

900 messages?!?

WOW, def. call her out on that $hit. and no, it won't just blow over... The secrecy is fueling the A fire and her being "naugty" is only turning her on more.

NO F...N' CONTACT, EVER AGAIN. NO FRIENDS, NO NOTHING!

mvgfwd2 would you please explain the last part of this?

Wife does nothing around the house anymore. Or maybe im just noticing now that Im making concious effort not to do as much caretaking around the house. I suppose now would be time to set a boundary

If you do nothing and the wayward spouse knows you what is going on, it is the same as saying whatever is going on is OK.

StrongJ, I hope your boundary is focused on the ongoing A and not the housework.

Do i only set one boundary?

I would say my wife knows i know exactly whats going on she thinks i think their just freinds and they only talk about work and sports and dont text much. But i know better just havent called her out yet still trying to learn best way to do that.