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No, I understand. And I agree that at some point, this discussion was necessary. But I think staying up last night to just point out that you 'were tired' and head off to bed was kinda weak.

I think you may have been better served going to bed last night, and having this discussion tomorrow after she can see that you WONT be disrespected. Its like, you purposely let her disrespect you last night and then told her that you wont accept it again - but it doesnt come across as coming from a place of strength when you JUST LET HER disrespect you on purpose.

You understand what Im saying?

I think i understand what your saying i suppose this makes sence i will try to remember this advice for futute.

She really told off on herself with those actions.



She was temp checking to see if you would respond to her physical cooing. You did right in not responding and acting as if you were interested.



This is to be expected. When a woman knows she can control the man through physical affection, she uses it to stop him from being upset, or to get herself out of hot water, or to get her way. Don't think she hasn't done it before. She bounced on that little tactic way too quickly. She wanted to assure herself that she still had you in the palm of her hand.

Then the next morning she is puzzled b/c she doesn't understand why her usual tactic didn't work on you last night. She'll sigh and look all sad, etc. Just ignore it and do NOT ask her if she's okay or if anything is wrong. These two questions are to be deleted from your brain. All it does it open the door for more of her R talk.

any suggestions what i should say or do instead my brain always wants to say "whats up?"

Also, what does this mean?

Good morning. ?

Nothing. ?

Now shes W is texting me asking how my day is going at work this new. Just told her i was having a busy day and didn't ask how hers was going. Should i have asked her how her day was going. Im assuming this is kinda like the i love you thing just to get an i love you too. She asked how my was hoping i woud show interest in hers? Any thoughts?

Now shes W is texting me asking how my day is going at work this new. Just told her i was having a busy day and didn't ask how hers was going.
Perfect

Should i have asked her how her day was going.
Nope.

Im assuming this is kinda like the i love you thing just to get an i love you too. She asked how my was hoping i woud show interest in hers? Any thoughts?
Yep. Just temp checking you.

Thanks things getting more clear everyday. Going to gym today instead of last night and W keeps suggesting i go first thing after work i keep telling her id rather go in the evening. Because i would that way i get some time with s1 while she is at gym after work. Looking forward to thay time with him nothing special planned just a little father son bonding time

Keep you your schedule as usual. You S1 is important to keep that time. It looks like she wants to free up her evenings after you would return from the gym. If you go later it isn't so easy for her to get out since she has to wait until you return. But I'm sure she was thinking of how it is better for you to go first. LOL.