Salsa was really good last night. I'm definately going again next week.The beginners 8 week course start next Monday. I was mainly watching as the others were all 8 weeks into their course. There was one flirty younger girl, who kept catching my eye....good for my self-confidence.
I forgot to mention the first 'tender' moment between us last night. W gave herself a 'black eye' on Sat. A small case fell out of the wardrobe and hit her in the eye. I wasn't home and didn't see it until Sunday night. She has talked about it ruefully several times and I desparately wanted to hug me and 'kiss it better' but stopped myself. I touched the bruise tenderly last night when she pointed it out again ' it still hurts'.
She is also liking my FB posts, and still wears wedding ring but not engagement ring....bread crumbs I know .
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With you watching TV. That's good that you are only watching the show you want to watch also. You are in control of what you do. The you can say no to watching other show with her. I see no problem with that.
Did you ask to watch with her or did she ask you to watch with her?
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Usually we both go down to the lounge about 9pm after boys are tucked up. Mostly she asks me if I would like to watch xxxx but we also like various TV shows mutually and we know the schedule.
So over the past year: Falling Skies,The Walking Dead, Game of Thrones, Breaking Bad, Homeland - all American but with Brit actors
At the mo, only Walking Dead and Homeland are on. Walking Dead is Monday - so we watch that.
I think she will ask if I want to watch Homeland tonight. Think I will say no, I have other things to do. I want to sell some stuff on Ebay and I need to write a letter to a rail company re: a refund.
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Tonight was ok again though different to how I expected.
I got boys from school and cooked their meal. They were due to have kickboxing class at 6. W got home later than usual.
Straightaway she noticed new clothes that I had bought and really complimented me on them, saying they really suited me - so that was good.
She likes to take boys to KB class so she can chat to two of her best GFs and go for a run with them. I tagged along to watch the boys.
After KB class she asked if I was going out to salsa, I said no, I would be doing one class per week for a few weeks, then maybe two. I then said I was going for a run instead .
So I did a 5k got back and she cooked our meal and talked a bunch about her work day. She never asks about mine.
Then after boys in bed she had to drive to a work colleagues house to pick up some documentation for tomorrow.. When she got back I was watching Skyfall and she asked that I don't delete it as she wanted to see it.
Tomorrow she is at home early on and will want to take boys to school as she rarely gets the chance. I will make myself scarce after breakfast.
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1. I am faithful to my wife and our marriage - through better or worse. 2. I take care of my body through good nutrition and physical exercise 3. I exercise 3/4 times per week or more. 4. I choose to pursue friendship with people whose values and priorities are similar to my own. 5. I live below my means. 6. I choose to drink alcohol in moderation, not smoke, not gamble or be addicted to drugs. 7. I put my families needs before my own. 8. I put my children's future as my highest priority. Their safety, security, happiness. 9. I value my dignity, my appearance, my demeanour, my self respect. 10. I work to live, not live to work
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I like what you've done with your list. I do have a couple of comments for you to consider when you reevaluate the list for the first time:
Originally Posted By: isittoolate
My first go at setting some N.U.T.S.:
N.U.T.s
1. I am faithful to my wife and our marriage - through better or worse. - Don't Forget to be true to yourself 2. I take care of my body through good nutrition and physical exercise 3. I exercise 3/4 times per week or more. 4. I choose to pursue friendship with people whose values and priorities are similar to my own. 5. I live below my means. 6. I choose to drink alcohol in moderation, not smoke, not gamble or be addicted to drugs. 7. I put my families needs before my own. This one I am curious about. I understand where you are coming from. we all need to make sacrifices here to make sure family is taken care of. My biggest issue here is that we have put our families needs first our entire marriage and we lost who we are. Please do not continue that road. Your needs HAVE to be ranked at the top of the list. In a good marriage it would be You, Marriage then kids. Think about that...and how you've lived up until now. As long as you are true to yourself first and foremost you can provide for the rest with love, caring and understanding. Severing your needs to fill the needs of others is a detriment to yourself. 8. I put my children's future as my highest priority. Their safety, security, happiness. 9. I value my dignity, my appearance, my demeanour, my self respect. 10. I work to live, not live to work
Zephyr - thanks a lot . I need to read the books 2/3/4 times so it sinks in. I will re-evaluate and add to this list and my DB goals.
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Just remember this is not all going to change overnight.
It takes time for all of this $hit to sink in and bit by bit, you will realize what you've known all along.
It is a wonderful feeling of accomplishment when we see ourselves growing as men in the face of adversity...showing real strength and sincere tendernes.
1. I am faithful to myself first, then my wife and our marriage - through better or worse. 2. I take care of my body through good nutrition and physical exercise 3. I exercise 3/4 times per week or more. 4. I choose to pursue friendship with people whose values and priorities are similar to my own. 5. I live below my means. 6. I choose to drink alcohol in moderation, not smoke, not gamble or be addicted to drugs. 7. I put my needs first, then my families. If I meet my needs then my family will benefit 8. I put my children's future as my highest priority. Their safety, security, happiness. 9. I value my dignity, my appearance, my demeanour. 10. I work to live, not live to work 11. I will have me time for at least 60 minutes per day. During this time I will relax, and do some of my favourite things, read, drink coffee, fix my bike, watch TV. Just relax
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but with Brit actors 