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Not replying to txt, sms, and repeated phone calls is passive/aggressive behaviour.

I simple reply like ' I'm busy call you call at xxx. Or ' I'm busy will call you tomorrow is a much more dignified response.

Read through your words above and ask yourself ' Did my actions get me closer to reconciling my marriage?

Remember actions speak louder than words


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BD 11/15/11 & 3/27/12
Moved out 4/9/12 Moved back 4/23/12
W working on US 5/20/12 Now Piecing!
May-Oct14 drifting
Dec 14 W agrees to more QT
BD Oct15 ILYBINILWY
W filed 1/25/16
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agreed, better to reply than not.

I was hurt and thought it best to not reply so I wouldnt say something I would regret later.

I never expected her insistence.

I was wrong.... learn for next time.

Thanks Is.


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Max - Are you working on U?

Have you made a list of every single complaint W had about you?
Have you addressed the ones you can?

Have you made a list of things you dont like about yourself?

Have you started to address them

Do you have goals?
Do you have N.U.T.S.?

Are you passive/aggressive? Have you read NMMNG?

Do you listen to W? Do you validate? Are you physically attractive, can you do better, dress better,

Get working on yourself . You have 24 hours each day. A lot can be acheived quickly...Will she notice? Of course she will, but she will be suspicious, patience is key....

Go to bed each night believing you were the best man you could be that day. Wake up and start again.

Take a look at my thread for my goals and NUTS. Look at Azzork's thread for goals. Get reading

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Me49 W45
T15 M13
S11 S8
BD 11/15/11 & 3/27/12
Moved out 4/9/12 Moved back 4/23/12
W working on US 5/20/12 Now Piecing!
May-Oct14 drifting
Dec 14 W agrees to more QT
BD Oct15 ILYBINILWY
W filed 1/25/16
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Small steps forward each day is all it takes. Each day observe areas of yourself that you would like to change and attempt it. Change your habits or conditioning. Be the man you want to be. It does not happen over night, it's a long journey.



“Character is destiny” Heraclitus
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