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First step towards good credit: Activated my cc, went out and got a manicure and then home and immediately paid the cc off, haha! Living life dangerously over here....

Oh NO! You are having dinner with him and you just got a manicure? do not ruin your nails strangling him! Just keep chewing.

And what ever you do, dont whip out the CC at the end of dinner and shout "I GOT THIS". He can pay for dinner. (Did every man on the forum just cringe?)

I barely budget. I mean, I must do it because my electricity never gets shut off, but I do not do it on purpose. It would be nice to try that some day.

Hahaha, Mona you crack me up. Cheers btw.

Dinner meant delivery pizza here. And I used his CC when I ordered.

I didn't DB very well. I was too engaging. But it was nicer than anticipated and not nearly as awkward.

Another good day...I think. He came and picked up D this morning and took her to this expo for a few hours. I used my alone time to take a hard run and shower. Afterwards we met up for lunch. During lunch we spoke a lot about the marathon he is running. Things weren't tense, at least not as far as I'm concerned.
Afterwards we started walking to the play ground. D was running around, he was complaining about having only slept a few hours the night before. Twice he was about to start to say something about feeling guilty for letting her down, she's growing so fast. Both times D interrupted before he could finish and I quickly changed the subject. I know the DB thing would have been to somehow validate him, but I wasn't about to tell him "oh no, she'll be fine" or something like that. I was worried I'd either start a fight by agreeing with him or end up telling him not to worry. Also, I'm not really sure if he was referring to just being gone a lot for work or for breaking the family apart.

I don't really know how to act (if Mahhty was here, he'd kill me for asking again, haha), but today was nice, I was friendly and engaging, but other people seem to DB by just being polite and less engaging. What to do?!?

Hope you're all having a nice saturday.

Another nice day.
We stood and waited for more than an hour to watch him finish the marathon. Then afterwards we waited another hour to find him/meet up. All the streets were closed off and he was walking s l o w l y, so it took a while.
We found a place to eat and took the train home. He thanked me for coming by, said he knew it was no picnic with impatient toddler.
I did give him a quick hug when we first saw him after the race and said congrats. He seemed surprised, but didn't mind. Hope that's not breaking all the DB rules. I figured I'll treat him like I would any friend.
Oh we also brought snacks for him, croissants, cookies etc.

Sounds great, you are emitting warmth and companionship, providing you don't expect anything back and keep it to The current level ebbing and flowing inline with any responses he gives, so it doesn't appear needy, you will be fine.

Do you know what his Love Language (LL) is?

No, I don't know actually. How or where can I find out more?

Ok, I think it might be physical touch. He would sometimes pick fights with me to get me to come hug him. Unfortunately it never worked as I was a stubborn moron. He also complained that I didn't like to sleep too closely to him, he wanted us to connect for a bit before dozing off at night.
Not sure what I'm gonna do about this. It's not like we touch each other at the moment. He just left again, but will be around next weekend. He actually asked if we wanted to go to the movies, but was interrupted and then just said something about babysitting Saturday night if I wanted to go out.

Arrgh..My head is pounding today. Going for a run didn't exactly help. I'm so tired. Daylight savings is a PITA when you have young kids.
AND I have to go grocery shopping. Can this day be over yet?!

It might be time for you to read the 5 LL book by Gary D Chapman to get some ideas as to how to make the most of his Physical Touch LL. It's not about full on touching, it's a lot more subtle than that.

Will def take a look at that.
Thank you, Avanti.