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While my mind is all messed up I'm trying to sort out any reason I may feel the way I do. I am leaning towards the idea that maybe my moods have to do with the fact that I'm living in "our" home? Too many memories in the walls, from buying, remodeling, starting a family, parties and just living here. There isn't a place in this house I can look without picturing us doing something. If i can narrow it down to this I will most likely sell this home and build or buy a new one. Just rambling about my thoughts but there may be something more to it?

Uphill, jumping in here. I am living in "our" house also and it is hard. The plan is to sell when D is finalized. As soon as H moved out I removed everything that blatantly reminded me of him. I took down some special art we picked out together. Got rid of wedding pictures. Got a new bed and re-decorated the bedroom and a little re-decorating in other rooms. It helped a lot

I wish there was a "like" button. I totally agree with what Photo said.

I have already done the taking down pictures, changing things up a bit but I feel like it may still be nagging at me? For example, not to sound weird or perverted but the visions that come to me come more from sexual moments than anything. Maybe that is my lack of anything like that happening for months now? It's not like I look at the curtains we picked together and get a gloomy feeling. It's deeper than that. I always remember that time we did this in that room, or did that in the bathroom...

Also thanks for stopping in Becky, it's always nice to get advise from other sources!

Yeah photo's comment earlier was spot on! It makes 150% sense!

I understand what you are saying. I really miss the intimacy, affection and physical touch with another person. I'm sure you do too.

I have a very vivid memory and am constantly seeing things we did here and there (not necessarily sex but sometimes) and remembering things he did for me in detail. It's torture. In times like this a little memory loss would be a good thing.

I think it will take us living enough of our new life to have new memories to replace the old.

Haha, the one that gets me every time... I won't get into detail but we purchased a new couch a matter of weeks before she left. It was a "goal" of ours to show that thing a little bit of everything! Well we did, and now every time I sit on that thing I can barely watch a tv show. I'm half tempted to take it outside and burn it but I spent like $6000 on the thing!

Oh no! And wow, that's one expensive couch. Hang in there.

Yeah, it wasn't the cheapest but it is the one both of us fell in love with... I was in super spouse mode and bought it.

I was having a fairly good day emotionally and mentally today. I picked up S4 to take him to XF's place after work. He started asking me when he comes back to my house. I told him I will see him Saturday and we have some fun plans for the weekend. Then came the heart breaker... He asked if mom could come to my house so we can be a family. It caught me WAY off guard and I asked him to repeat himself so I could gather my thoughts. He said that he wants mom to live at dads house again so we can be a family! I assured him that if it is possible I will do anything I can to make it happen.

It tore me up so bad I stopped after dropping him off and had a few beers. It hurt so bad to have my child say something like that and not be able to promise him that I will make it happen