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Okay, that's great! Have you thought about "how" to get there? Setting small goals that keeps you focused on the bigger picture, works well for a lot of people.

BTW, you can read the first chapter, while waiting on your book.

To be honest have I not set my goals other than the ultimate goal of saving my marriage. I am living one day at a time. Right now, keeping my children safe and happy, helping them whenever they need help and being the best dad I can be for them.

Write your goals down and concentrate on them.

Goals have been written down. First goal is to abide by Sandi2's 37 rules. Already seeing a difference at home. Less tension. I am noticing subtle changes in my spouse that seem positive. Taking one day at a time.

Goals have been written down. First goal is to abide by Sandi2's 37 rules."

That's not a goal. You write exactly what you want to achieve and put a timeline to it. Goals are specific.

My wife informed me that her Godfather passed away yesterday. Should I offer to accompany her to the Funeral as a show of support or wait to see if she asks me to attend the Funeral. The funeral is set for next Monday October 26.

Tell her that you're sorry for her loss and would be willing to give her a ride if she needs one.

My suggestion to you is work on being the best you possible, being the best dad possible and try to gain an accurate assessment of your wife's issues with the marriage. What exactly are you up against?

I am up against aw all that my wife has built up around herself due to my actions of the past. When I did something that she disagreed with, she never told me and hence thought she was ok with my decisions, In hindsight, I should have been less selfish, less irresponsible and thought out my decisions before acting on them,

I wish she would have expressed her thoughts but I do take most of the blame in where our relationship is at present. My wife is strong willed, very secure and confident. Exactly what I was like when we met. Over the years I became the exact opposite.

So what are your goals?