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I have dropped all L. I am giving her the space she needs. She must be going through something , sadly i wasnt there for her emotionally thanks to my past which i have come to accept. I am working on myself now. How to let my childhood go and stop it from interfering with my family. I have given all my worries , troubles, and anxiety to our Lord. He will put the pieces back together. I will not go by the "worlds way" I would go by God's law instead. I will be patient and I will love her forever.

Im confused. Are you choosing to not fight to see your children?

I've chose the Lord to fight my battles. I am giving all my trust, worries and battles to him. He will come through!

I would strongly urge you to reconsider...

Stay strong buddy...

Agree. I think it's OK to give your R with your W over to whatever power you believe in.

But Im not sure you should leave your relationship with your kids to that same fate.

Again: Your relationship to your children is separate from your relationship to you W.

Give her all the space she wants, but your kids didn't choose to leave you.

There is absolutely no conflict in securing access to your children while leaving your relationship to W to a higher power.

I don't think the good Lord meant for us to sit on our hands and wait for him to fix what we can fix ourselves.

Yes the kids didn't chose to leave you, you need to do what is necessary to see your children.

A parent cannot simply take the children away from the other parent simply because one of them wants a divorce or needs space.

Just do it in a manner that's calm.

Go and talk to a priest he will guide you!

No, if you want medication for anxiety or depression (both very common when a M falls apart), you need to go to a psychiatrist. It has nothing to do with crazy. Only a very, very small portion of the people who go to a psychiatrist have a serious personality disorder that would make them dysfunctional.

On the moving on, it all depends on the therapist (the psychiatrist will almost certainly not be doing any talk therapy - they mostly medicate now days) and how she presents things.

Just let things settle out. Give her the space and time to work on her issues, while you work on yours. That is the best thing you can give her and the best hope for your M. You likely won't believe this because of where you are, but all of us who were there wish we had gotten this much, much earlier.

Agree too. You can give your W space, but kids should have both parents unless their is child abuse. The more they feel attached to both their parents, the better they do.

Just tell the L that you want to do this in a way that respects your W's wish for space, and get another L if they can't understand this.

I am heartbroken ,i made the big mistake by snooping to her facebook. I found out she is talking to her ex-boyfriend who lives in MEXICO city. She did this in the past too, where when she broke up with me she would talk to him. Now she is doing it again. She hasnt stop loving him :(((
i am so heart broken. i have given up hope.