6 Months ago I would have never imagined in a million years I 'd be on this board writing about saving my marriage.
I think one of the biggest mistakes a lot of us have made are thinking this could never happen to us. I still think about how my wife and I were a Disney Channel couple, not a Cinemax couple. No way either of us would get involved in something as shady and disgusting as an affair. Well, she did, and here we are. In life, sh*t happens. I guess it's how we deal with it is where we find our character. I've made every mistake a betrayed husband can make. All I can tell you is follow these programs. They may not work but will give you your best shot. If you love her and deep down you know she still loves you then everything else can be worked out.
I hear ya rocky... I've been in the same place except my wife moves out. I will say I feel much better since going dark... Has to be done in my case. I also had to give up the dog 😟.... I miss that lil guy. Hang in there!
It's been 2 weeks since I've moved out, and I've only had very limited contact with my WW. Every time I see a message from her, it's never good. She did, however send me a few pictures and a video of our dog playing. For a moment it felt nice that she was nice.
I went over our old condo to pick up some of the last of my things and was surprised to find that she was redecorating, new linen, wall paintings, etc... It actually upset me a little, wow how fast was that. Like it's an exciting time for her to be able redecorate the house. That brought me down a bit.
Looking for advice about a text message I received today from WW. I've been Going Dark for 2 weeks now with the exception of 1 text message about the dog and her asking me for the house keys. Today, she sent me and angry text telling me to stop talking to friends about what happen. She says I'm throwing her under the bus and she is getting a bad reputation as a cheater who betrayed her husband.
She asked me to stop talking to friends about what happen, because she doesn't. Want us to get ugly. She basically said she will list all her grievances to everyone. I know she just trying to save her "good girl" rep, as her A has really shocked some people as well as her family. She tried to keep it a secret, but I have told my closest friends about what happen, and the word has gotten out.
How should I respond to her text asking me to "be the gentlemen I've always been" and not tell anyone anymore?
Me - 34 W - 34 T- 4 M- 2 No Kids BD - 4/18/15 ILYBNILWY EA/possible PA 06/20/15 Seperated 09/28/15
Sorry about going to the house and seeing that. That would upset me too. Hopefully that is the last time you will have to go there. I wish I could get a pic or video of our dog :-(.
Anyway, if I were in your situation, I would ignore it to be honest. I tell my closest friends and family everything but keep details vague to the 'drama starters' even if they are friends. And, of course, I don't talk to her friends about the situation.
I hope being physically separated makes things a bit easier for you.. it does for me.
