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Hi Elliy

Like it has been said sometimes you just have to keep posting just knowing people care is often enough to get you through the day

Take care

Ghost

Hi Zephyr, I've been in survival mode lately, and am falling asleep so quickly at night I haven't had the chance to get on here. Boy do I miss the support!

H is still distant so I really think he's waiting for some sign before he leaves. Going off somewhere almost every night.

Balancing my life is getting really hard!

I think of you all often and include you in my nightly prayers.

Hugs
E

Ghost, thank you for the reminder. I need to keep remembering to come in here.


E

So, I think I've been screwing up. It's hard not to when we are in the same house. I've been asking how his day was, what his plans are, where he's going...all in a friendly way, but realized I'm falling into the pursuit model again. Bad me. It's hard for me, I know...codependent...to just sit in the distance that he has created. I know, I could go out somewhere but I'm working full time now and want to be home to spend time with my son. I am not going to let him chase me out of the house with his silence. Just have to climb on the horse again.

Silly tall horse.

Hello Elly, this is my first post on your thread. We have some things in common. My wife is in another bedroom also.
The funny thing is I sleep better without her under these circumstances. Before she moved out , it was so tense.
I was afraid I might touch her by mistake. How about you, do you sleep better now?

You commented about your husbands silence. Is he silent with you a lot?
My wife will not say a word to me unless she has to. I really miss talking with her.
How do you cope with his silent treatment?

I am sorry you are going through this, there is nobody I would wish this on.
There is no way to ignore this pain and no where to hide from it.
Best of luck to you Elly.

Once is not an issue (unless it's truly a doozy - like an A). Patterns are an issue. Don't get on yourself. Just shake it off,and get back to where you need to be.

Hi Mutatio! Thanks for swinging by on my thread! It does sound like we have many commonalities. I too am preferring to sleep alone. I don't have to deal with the tension as well. I am sleeping somewhat better, but it's still difficult for me to know he's just in the next room.

His silence is annoying, especially when he's laughing at his cell phone. If my son is awake, I go and play with him and try not to notice what my H is doing. If my S is asleep, I head up to my bedroom if it's really bothering me. I have an office up there that I can hang in. What do you do to deal with the silence?

My H has been my best friend for over 20 years and I totally miss talking with him. In reality though, he's not here right now. There is a stranger in his place that I don't know. I can only hope that my H shows up again. Maybe the aliens have them. It helps for me to think of the situation that way. I'm also coming very close to dropping the rope.

You don't deserve to be in this place either. None of us do, but because we are here, it's great to have the support that surrounds us.

I wish you many blessings.

E

Thanks Asitis. That's what I'm going to try and do. Climb back on the horse. Really contemplating why he's still here when he asked me for a divorce.

Thinking of you, E.

I wish things were going better for you and us all...

Keep taking it day by day.

I am so in tune with this paragraph! He not only fired me as Wife, he cost me my best friend, too. I really enjoyed talking with him. I'm going to learn to love silence. I have no plans to ever put myself at risk like this again.