I am so sorry you are going through this. My suggestion right now is--do not sulk. You know where you stand right now and be thankful that you know your direction. You are a good man. You deserve better. Know this is in your heart and mind.
Me: 30's W: 30's M: 12yrs EA: Started 3/2015 MC Started: 4/2015 She moved out and served 6/2015 PA: Confirmed 10/5/2015 2 young kids
"If you do not stand for something you will fall for anything."
Thanks man. I'll be ok I think. Still taken aback.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
NDY, I'm so sorry to hear that my friend. That is painful news indeed and my heart goes out to you. I'm glad that your W reached out to you and told you this news direct. It was respectful of her at least to do that.
This is another BD for you and you'll feel shocked and upset of course. I agree with Azzork; this may (or may not) be a deal breaker for you. I have always thought it would be for me, but we never truly know until/unless it happens to us. It's best not to make any huge decisions until you feel more settled. Do keep posting and we'll help and support all we can.
Take care ((((((NDY))))))
Last edited by Sotto; 08/31/1508:27 PM.
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Thanks guys. Really appreciate all this. This is worse than BD. BD was bad but man.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Yea. That would have been worse. Still a kick in the teeth.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Of course it is NDY - That is such tough news to get. It's one of my worst fears in my own sitch as H says he wants a new family and OW is so much younger. I truly feel for you my friend. Try and remember - even during this toughest time - that we don't get to choose what happens to us. But we do get to choose how to respond.
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Thanks Sotto. I'm staying under the radar with her. All I've asked is that she tells me once S10 knows so that I can talk to him.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
That is a shocker. How irresponsible and ... irresponsible of her. I'm lost for words.
I am so sorry, this must really feel like you got kicked in the teeth. Your only comfort may be that I sincerely doubt she planned it! At least I hope not...
I'm sorry for not remembering this, but is OM interested in/free to commit to her?
M 16 yrs, WH62, P54 3 adult blended kids EA 11/13, BD1 6/14 PA fall 14, BD2 2/15 Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15 Separated 4/16 WH moved OW in 5/16 Divorced 6/15/17
