When you say "leave them alone", I think it is OK to maintain some dialogue with the inlaws. My FIL/MIL are still my kid's grandparents, so Id like to be on good terms with them. But Im not going to discuss anything related to W or my M with them. Just light, breezy conversation.
You are right Azzork, don't go out of your way to engage with them, don't ignore them either (let them come to you) and always be friendly but never discuss anything R oriented.
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?
Frankly, what others think is down to them. We can't mind read each will have their own view point.
They may not even voice initially. Be friendly, no obsequious behaviour or words, thankful for grandparenting, grateful for involvement. Show up as the best caring dad you can be. It's enough. They can think as they will.
The truth will out anyway.
Be still, enjoy your children.
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW