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Thanks Toots! It had been a really bad day and then I saw Matt's post. How do you unlink your ipad? Mine probably is as well.

How are you doing?

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Hi Eirinn, you have to do it from the PC I think. I had to do a reset to factory settings on my ipad recently, so that unlinked it. But my iphone is still linked. They only sync via wifi though, and since we are S that's not going to happen unless I visit our MH.

I did decide to turn private browsing on - which probably makes no difference in my case, but is a good idea if you are living together.

Hope today is a better one for you.

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Originally Posted By: Eirinn
Wow! After reading Matt's goodbye, I'm a bit flipped out. My H is a information specialist so knows computers in and out. Could he find out this site?

I don't have a history or stay logged on...but now I can't stop thinking about it. Nothing I haven't said to him or that I regret, but still.

I'm on here because I love him and want to make our marriage work or at least know I've tried. I just wish I knew what he wanted.

I hope that Eirinn is not your real name.

I can only add that my wife has a user name here and on 5 other boards and pursued me all over the internet.
She has NO computer expertise but installed a key logger on our computer and stole my user name and passwords.
The key logger eventually crashed the computer because it is essentially spyware.

We have had many spouses spy on their LBS's and it is not a good situation.

These are public boards and you do need to be careful about what you post.


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Eirinn, reviewing your husbands ability to access your devices is not a bad idea. I don't use my iPad for anything but work so not positive if you have to do anything more with that.

This weekend, I went back and reread your threads. I forget all the things I've forgotten. I just wanted to say that I love how you've adjusted your goals forward as you have been getting close to them and the way you have been focusing more on you and the kiddo.

Kudos!!!!


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Originally Posted By: Cadet

I can only add that my wife has a user name here and on 5 other boards and pursued me all over the internet.
She has NO computer expertise but installed a key logger on our computer and stole my user name and passwords.
The key logger eventually crashed the computer because it is essentially spyware.

Cadet, do you know why...what was her goal or what was she looking for...if you don't mind telling???


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Originally Posted By: Cadet

I can only add that my wife has a user name here and on 5 other boards and pursued me all over the internet.
She has NO computer expertise but installed a key logger on our computer and stole my user name and passwords.
The key logger eventually crashed the computer because it is essentially spyware.

Cadet, do you know why...what was her goal or what was she looking for...if you don't mind telling???

I really have no clue however maybe it was to gain an advantage in her divorce.


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Originally Posted By: Zephyr
Originally Posted By: Cadet

I can only add that my wife has a user name here and on 5 other boards and pursued me all over the internet.
She has NO computer expertise but installed a key logger on our computer and stole my user name and passwords.
The key logger eventually crashed the computer because it is essentially spyware.

Cadet, do you know why...what was her goal or what was she looking for...if you don't mind telling???

I really have no clue however maybe it was to gain an advantage in her divorce.


Did she, Cadet??

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Zephyr,

Your wife most likely wanted to see what you were saying about her and your relationship situation. There are times when the spouse will come here and yes, other forums as well, to see what we discuss here and more importantly to see what their spouses are saying and what the advice being given. By doing so, it gave her an advantage to stay several steps ahead of you and she just might have printed everything off and kept it in a safe place to show her lawyer, if it became necessary.

No one truly knows why they come here, but I can certainly put my money on what Cadet stated about gaining an advantage in her divorce.

It is very important that posters do not come here or on other forums and share a lot of what is going on. If they do, they will need to figure out a way to change up some of the info so that spouses do not recognize what is being posted. These forums are open to the public and people do not need to log on as users in order to view the community boards and read what is posted. This also applies to many of the other internet forums out in the cyber world.

In your case, the key logger had you pegged dead to rights and she was able to follow you wherever you went. I'm sorry this happened and hopefully she got what she came for is now history on this forum.

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Wonka

I think that Job has it pretty much pegged.
I was clueless tbh, and she was playing a totally
different script than I was.

Plus I was being given advice that she was pursuing me.
I don't really think so.

I think once they are reading the playbook,
there is not a lot that you can do other than to really - Let Go.


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Wonka

I think that Job has it pretty much pegged.
I was clueless tbh, and she was playing a totally
different script than I was.

Plus I was being given advice that she was pursuing me.
I don't really think so.

I think once they are reading the playbook,
there is not a lot that you can do other than to really - Let Go.


I guess you did not get my question...let me clarify here.

Did she....

What I meant was did she "gain" advantage in the D proceedings by 'stalking' you through DB and other forums?

Did she??


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