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Hi Bob

Thanks for stopping by. I hope you are holding up well. I think of you often friend.

Best heavy

off visiting art Museums witht the family today.

Can't believe that w hand given up on us. How can she not be missing this? Kids wrote a post card - I addressed it and they both wrote "wish you were here". I did not prompt them to write that - it was spontaneous.

Just moving onwards. Gardens here are lush and
beautiful.

Hey Heavy,

I think you did really well with the TM exchanges with W.

I am glad to read that you've picked up the Vincent Peale book. I enjoyed reading some of his books. It seems he was pretty ahead of the times.

Enjoy the rest of the trip and safe travels back home!

(((Heavy)))

Thanks Wonka

For the kind words. Yes, NVP was ahead of his time for sure!

I will continue on the path. It is interesting for sure which is a good metaphor for life- always full of surprises. It helps to feel ore peaceful to not be upset or angry - no brainer there right?

Take good care - Heavy!

So what about the comment from W - do you want me to get groceries for the house for your family when you get back? What the heck was that about?

The old W would so do that - ensure that everyone had what they wanted etc... However we are on the road to d. Did i blow it by saying "no thanks but we are ok.". Maybe i should have said yes, thank you , that would be nice. Maybe that's an act of service for her?


Thoughts? That also means she has keys to the house , she has not been into the house since she left - maybe December.

Does this strike anyone as weird? I guess it's just me over thinking it as usual.

Heavy,

Yeah, I noticed it and thought that was a nice gesture from W. I would have responded something like this:

"Yeah, it would be wonderful if you can get some groceries for us....that would be a big help. Thanks!"

That's just it Wonka. She is emphatically divorcing me, actively telling me how much she is in love with AP she is, how stupid I am, is refusing to pay her portion mortgage, has filed for some custody, has broken our family apart, and she wants to get groceries for my family as a nice gesture?

I honestly do not understand this. How can one person be so destructive on one hand and on the other wants to buy us groceries? Is they not a contradictory behavior?

Maybe I am being too black and white about the issue - all of nothing when there are many shades of grey that I am simply unable to comprehend.

What the heck am I missing? Am I supposed to say , yes ok that would be great while she metaphorically holds the knife to my throat? Really?

I don't know - confusion abounds for me. I am thinking out loud that I am not detached enough at all.

So a missed opportunity to connect is basically what you are saying. I can't see the forest for the trees.

Do you think

1. She is doing this for the kids
2. She wants access to the house
3. Genuinely cares in case it's beans for tea
4. All or none of the above
5. It's Tuesday

Act as if she has the best motives and smile.

V

Is it a temp check? Guess it doesn't matter.

After everything that has happened and she has all but thrown the kitchen sink at me - it is very very hard for me to act as if. I guess with a little more effort I can do it but criminey this is tough.

I used to be a person who had confidence and abilities and was sure of myself. This whole situation has rocked me to my core and I am just now slowly building myself up a little.

One text from her blows my mind and sends me back to square 1. grrrrrr!!!

I agree with Vanilla. There is no way to know what the heck she might be thinking. So why not be happy she's offering to do anything nice and take it?