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I know it's hard, but try not to put too much stock in things that she was saying right before BD. Maybe she was working through things herself, maybe she was hoping you'd react differently. Who knows.

Also, try to remember that you aren't NOTHING to her now. You haven't contacted her in two weeks and you're an emotional wreck. Why are you assuming that because she hasn't contacted you in two weeks that she is over you?

Matt, I go off her actions , she's hanging out with friends , took me off Facebook, closed our joint bank account, gave the ring back , etc... So hard to wrap my head around this, we used to text all the time , talk, etc.

AJ, have you seen the saying on here yet of believe nothing that she says and only 50% of what she does? It's true. Count on yourself. You are your own best support!

Keeping you in my prayers,

E

She's not over you Aj, not even close. She's not felt the weight of her decision yet, she's still in denial herself. You are not. Just give it time. No one is with someone for 7 years and then over it in two weeks.

It took my W four months before the weight of leaving hit her (or so she said), that's a long time but there was living with her friend, finding a new place, distracting herself with work, moving into her new place, joining a new gym etc. Then....oh wow, there are no more distractions. Then it hit.

It probably took me 5 months before I realized what people were saying when they said, "This will take much longer than you think it will and you actually want it that way."

I thought they were as crazy as you probably think we all are. Time is your friend. If you get back together this weekend, you'll be back on here in two months when you both run out of being on your best behavior. Time is your friend, it's working for you not against you.

Thanks Eirinn and PPen! I have seen that saying here Eirinn, trying to believe in it! I don't know if it will ever hit her ...had a better day yesterday , hung out with aunt and uncle for dinner and I was feeling "normal" for awhile

That's great, AJ! It's hard to believe, but you will have more of those moments as you travel on this path.

*hugs*
E

Hello AJ,

Eirinn brought up a very good reminder! Also, I am so happy that you felt "normal" again, even if it was only for a while. We here on this forum all need that.

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Chin up, please!

Bob

Hi Bob,
Thanks for checking in , prayers for you and everyone here as well. Every day is a challenge and this board is helping me out tremendously. Happy 4th everyone

Happy 4th everyone. Took some steps back this morning, I may be overthinking but the way she left there has got to be a ea or pa,everyone close to her says no as did she but to leave your "love" on such easy issues to workout baffles me

AJ, focus on yourself. You can do this. Whatever she is doing is beyond your control. She is lost right now and is not making sense. Sit down and make a list of some fun stuff to do today.

I'll keep praying for you,

E