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This boards helping a lot btw, appreciate everyone .

One word of caution.

Be CAREFUL howuch you tell family and friends. As Cadet/Wonka wrote, you don't want to give your playbook to the opposite team. I wish I had thought of it sooner, but those are the breaks. Find one peron you can confide in and keep it at that. Otherwise, just show everyone PMA and your new you. It will get back to your W.

I have been ready to give up several times....things were pretty bleak a week ago and right now they don't look bad. Just hang in there.

Thanks Matt, I haven't told anyone about this . All everyone knows is the circumstances she said she left me for , how I love her and want to work it out ...

Good to know up north,thanks! Keeps my hope alive even in bleak times.

Sounds like you are on your way.

Church, friends, and family are all critical because you need a support network outside your M world.

I hope you aren't taking all the advice you read here

I'm glad you ordered the book. Remember, that for you focusing on caring for yourself and detaching are primary, as you need that space and time to start seeing things from a bit more distance than the tight little world of misery that closes in on us after this blow.

Keep posting and keep up the good work.

Thanks Asitis, what's the hardest for me is I'm soo damn emotional , even at work I'm engaging coworkers and then bam I have memories of her and I doing even simple things like hanging out watching tv and i get down again. It's so hard getting her out of my mind , constant memories come to me even when I'm talking /hanging out with family /friends/coworker

That happens. I was the same as you in the beginning. Now? Well if I say I don't think about her I would be lying. I do think about her but I'm no longer a blubbering mess any more. Getting on an even keel is crucial for your wellbeing. It takes time and it won't be easy but it is critical. Not just for you but for any chance of your M working again.

It's such a bad feeling can't go even an hour without some memory of her popping up

What about two days ago? Wasn't it constant?
Now you can go an hour. Sounds like progress.

Don't be too hard on yourself.