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But how can i prove that when she wants no contact ? She's cutt off everything , I don't see her ever calling/texting me unless it's divorce related

I know how weird it is to hear this advice right now but I wish I had received this advice earlier in my sitch. Try to focus, relax, and most importantly, get the books.

Either way it turns out, your life is not over. DB is not about getting you W back necessarily, it's about you making the changes that you need to make for yourself.

Thanks defacto

Let's worry about that later.

I'll ask you a question in return.

How can you prove that you are changed until you've changed?

Aj8. Hi.

You are in panick mode right now. We all did/are doing that. It's easy to say it'll get better but it's much harder to achieve it. The good folks here are telling you stuff so that you can (and you will) calm down and begin to focus. Once you focus you can embark on a plan. Small steps at a time.

Look, I'm not going to sugar coat you here. It took me months to get on an even keel but you in a small way are lucky as you found this place early. I didn't.

There is a person on here pyrite that advocated meditation. Is that something you can try?

Just so you know....

Ms. Wonka didn't speak/text/email to me for 4 SOLID consecutive months.

Have you been to a doctor about this yet?
Would you consider going on anti-depressants?

I went on them at the beginning to help me cope with all the stress.
It may be what you need to be able to process this loss and figure out how to recover.
It could even save your marriage, or at least save YOU!

Think about it.

I've given it thought but right now I'm still functioning , just think about her all the time and I'm listening to everyone here , God knows I need the advice

I second the idea about antidepressants. They were are Godsend to me as well as antianxiety meds. They really helped me to get back on my feet to function.

Check into it if you think they may help you.

keep posting, let it out, your thoughts, emotions, etc. just let it out.