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PP, I hear what you mean regarding moving on to a bit of anger. This is not to take away from what are very much my faults in my M. However, I do think after the numbness and depression from BD starts to lift, we are able to see things in a bit more perspective and weed out the complaints in the rewriting of marital history that maybe are not very true or accurate. I know that recently I have been able to remember certain events and memories in our M. Right after BD, I had a hard time recollecting much of anything because of my own fog. There were some very good times and I did not get everything desired from my H either. It is important to not take on blame for the entirety of our M.

My guess is that you W is leaving out some key bits of information and truths with her IC. Given the seriousness of a marital crisis it seems that your W would have more to work through than two sessions would allow. Makes me wonder if she is not medicating in someway to avoid facing her issues.

It is exciting to hear that you are working on a new area of business. I do agree there is very much a silver lining to what we are going through. Not living to our full abilities is such a waste given the short time we are here.

Pg

Remember actions (50%) speak louder than words (0%).

Telling to WAW is not as effective as walking the talk.

I can tell you that from the heart, my WH is a compulsive gambler feigning abstaining.

I still believe that WAW needs to see you get a pin.

V

Thank you for writing this BW, I appreciate you stopping by my thread. I believe my W is medicating with spirituality. She's not Christian, but has shut down her emotions by putting the onus of our situation on the Universe. My W was always smiling, everyday, no matter what. She never had bad days, never expressed her emotions, and was always cheery. Her Mom was severely bi-polar and she's told me that she was never allowed to have emotions of her own for fear that they would send her Mom in one direction or the other.

You're right as well, we're only here for a short time. So short. I hope everyone on this board is using their sitch's as fuel for living an amazing life. Pain is such an effective motivator.

Thank you V, thank you, thank you, thank you.

Much love to you.

PP