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Pretty sure I would too. Let her send the first message.

I agree. Let her send the first message. Interesting that all WAS seem to think you're up to something the moment there back is turned. The big question is, if they don't want us, why would they care?

Maybe that's the best, might come off as being a dick wishing her happy anniversary? I was hoping to let her know that I at least remembered and was thinking about it.

In retrospect the way I worded text may have insinuated that I was seeing or had the right to see someone?

She has texted me several times today about nothing, she said she is coming out tonight again for something. I didn't reply. I'm not sure I want to be there even though I need to be. Tonight will be the only chance I have this week to do anything around the house. Tomorrow S and I are off on another adventure!

I would reply to that one to let her know it's ok she's there. You don't want her to get the impression that she can come and go freely now.

You don't need to be there - it may be good to kinda dress up like you're leaving right as she arrives though, even if you're just driving around the block. Just a thought.

As crazy as all this is I kind of feel better about things a little, I'm glad she cares what I'm doing. I'm not going to get all excited like I have in the past but it keeps hope alive anyway.

Trust me....it's a lot less crazy sounding than you think.

It's when they stop showing any interest you should really worry.

You seriously think she is going to have a happy anniversary? Are you? Now, do you think you wishing her happy anniversary when you are in this stage is going to make her anniversary happy?

I should start thinking about this, as my A is coming up in a few weeks (like you, I've made plans to be out of town & haven't even brought up the A). I maybe (maybe) could see a "thinking of you on this difficult day" type of text, but before you initiate any contact really, really think hard about whether this would attract her or drive her away. And while you're thinking about that, your lack of contact drives home the pain that she is causing by walking away, if she is feeling any: Wow, he didn't contact me on our A, that hurts. I guess that is what the future will bring if I continue down this path. Do I want that?

It may be more complicated if you have always forgotten these days and she has said that this is one of her big issues w/ you.

Of course, if she initiates, don't be rude, although I'd run any responses by the board for vetting.

I Agree. I decided it was more trying to be a smart@ss than being sincere.