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Ok mate. Perhaps people with better experience than me can chip in.

If it helps, my W and I have been 'selling' the house for 6 months now. Guess what? It's still not on the market.

Well that is relieving. If we put it on the market, I know it will sell quick. It's just tough because if I am ordered to move out of the house, or if she is, neither one of us can afford to pay a portion of the mortgage and pay rent at an apartment.

NDY, your W lives out of the house? I could afford the mortgage on my own, it would just be tough for me financially.

She moved out not that long ago. I am at home on my own.

Look, if you can afford the mortgage can you buy your W out?

No I can't, we have a decent amount of equity in the house and there is no way I could buy her out. I wouldn't want to keep the house anyways. If things continue to move forward I'm tempted to tell her she can have all the furniture and everything if I can get a bigger % of equity. If we end up getting a D I don't want any reminders of former life with her.

My L is supposed to call me this afternoon to see what options we have with who gets the house during temporary order. If she still has to pay a % of mortgage I think she should get going! she is the one who wants the D so why shouldn't she leave the house?!

You've read GB's comments on my thread right? You know what he's said to me about the house. If he has time I hope he pops up here to advise you but it sounds to me like you are giving up. Don't. Things can change on a hairpin in these situations.

Kem, I was in a much worse place than you are now just a few months ago. Now I'm much happier and relaxed. I'm back in charge and kinda enjoying doing things for me and S9 that I never used to do. Simple things like planning meals.

I will have to go back and look at his comments. Hopefully he shows up here, but I will check it out. thanks NDY.

I'm not giving up, it's just hard for me to not feel defeated at time. I am a man of faith and I had to beg the Lord to give me strength to persevere, sometimes I just want to throw the towel in to get this pain over with.

We all feel like that. I was there just the other week. Yip, it is the hardest thing you will ever do in your life. No doubt about it. But just think about this. I'm not religious in the slightest but I do see the most amazing pulling together of people on here. All of us helping each other out. We don't know each other and most likely will never meet yet here we are. If I were a man of faith I'd be greatful for that.

Just spoke with L, signed my temporary order response and sent it back. We are going to request I get the house during temporary order. There are a lot of what-if's with that specific topic. Still a chance that she will get the house, but I felt better after talking with L

I am hoping she wakes up and we can slow down with the whole process without paying the lawyers all the money we have worked so hard for. Trying to hope for the best and prepare for the worst. I think she is going to be very upset when she see's I am requesting the house, but why wouldn't I?

I am definitely not giving up, I just know I need to protect myself. Part of me just wants to not do anything in regards to L and hope this goes away, but I know that would be very dumb of me.

Hi mate. You are doing the right thing. Surprising how much strength is in there, right?

Yeah NDY, it was kind of a relief to at least get that part over with.

So my W is a teacher and is off for the summer. She has been ironically leaving the house about half an hour before I get home with D2 and she never says anything about when they will get home or anything. Should I let this slide or say something? It infuriates me she knows my time with D2 is limited on weekdays and she still does this. I'm not sure what to say where it doesn't come across as me being angry. I think she does this to bait me