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Hello Zelda,

What a good attitude to have. It will eat away at you and use up so much energy. I am very proud of you!

BTW, I replied to your heart-warming post in my thread. That poem almost brought me to tears - happy ones!!! You are so wonderful.

Thank you and please keep your chin up. You will get thru this.

*Hugs*

Bob

All I can offer is fabulous hugs.

V

I'll take the hugs! Having unwanted tender memories.

Doing a fabulous job overhauling my house today though.

Z

I put a new post on the abuse thread about recovery, as if! You may have extra comments Z.

Because its harder than it looks this recovery stuff.

V

Hi Z. Im glad you're having a good time decorating your house. I overhauled my house the other month and although alot of it was the same stuff just rearranged, it felt good to be doing something and it definitely feels better knowing the house is nice again and not looking like a bachelor pad. Too bad you cant post pictures of it! Id love to see them.

Sorry things havent really changed in your sitch, but I think there comes a point where everything just...remains stagnant and its just time to live your life and keep hope (if you want, which you say you don't) that things will get better and everything will work out in the end.

I see alot of me in you, alot of the same feelings, how I acted was similar to your H, the songs that just seem to tell everything we feel, and just days where its just...sad.

What personal projects or goals have you come up with? you mentioned 3, I'm assuming overhauling the house is one of them?

TLEE, lol not talking interior decorating....think sledgehammers and crowbars.

I did do a deep clean and reorganization yesterday, and I had to deal with more mementos from all Rs that I didn't want to deal with. Overall effect was to feel like a failure. Alone many times over.

This weekend I will finish the demo of brick planters sand prepare house for pressure washing and outside paint. Thanks for stopping in.

V, I'll check it out. God I wish this was linear sometimes.

...yea i mean thats exactly what i did too...sledgehammers and crowbars and put up drywall and hammer and nails...

Ha! I am glad to see some humor out of you, my friend.

Good for you to be taking the bull by the horns and fixing up your place. I love to see folks dig in and find the power to do that kind of work on their own.

As far as the ghosts of R's past...is it truly failure if those other people were not the ones you were truly meant to be with? I think I understand what you meant...just curious if that sentiment is how you truly feel or if that was more of a downer.

Still keeping you in my thoughts!

Idk, Zephyr...I loved my first H's sweetheart so much...he was truly a worthy, well actualized person. I was immature and broke off the engagement.

The failure part...I dated such a string of lazy non-ambitious men. I don't know why I chose to attract these people in my life or why I found their companionship so dear.