Thanks to everybody for sending the positive thoughts my way. This forum really is a special place for those of us who are in this crummy situation.
Journaling: Really had a great day! Spent the morning on the patio, laying out, drinking coffee, and listening to tunes. It felt good to be in control of my own time and have nowhere to be, nothing to do. I did a little bit of shopping and then picked up the kids from STBX. The encounter with STBX was normal. I was upbeat and friendly but wanted to get out of there quicker than other times.
The afternoon with the kiddos was really special. We picked up a bunch of flowers to plant on my patio for a butterfly garden. We got back to my house and D4 helped me plant all the flowers. D4 is really happy with how it turned out. I am really proud to have recovered my patio and made it into such an important component of my living space for myself and the kids.
STBX called to say hello to the kids as normal. As we said our goodbyes, she ended the call with "Love you." I know it was a slip of the tongue but it's actually kind of insulting with what's coming tomorrow. No worries, I expected to get served months ago. This journey is far from over.
Me:35 W:30 D:4 S:1 Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA In House Separation: 01/14/15 W moves out: 04/05/15 I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15 W serves D papers: 06/19/15 Mediation: 09/16/15 D final: 12/01/15
You're right de facto. Far from over. Divorces take a long time, especially when you tell the attorney to drag it out. Then, even when it is over, as many said its just a piece of paper.
The I love you isn't fair and it's too easy to mind read. Go dark, gal, 180. You got this.
