Thanks for the perspective Matt. I'll say something later tonight "I can understand you being angry. I can see how my actions would look insensitive, next time I'll be sure to talk with you first" something like that?
I'm not good with the actual words.
I wouldn't go home with your tail between your legs though. You get divorced, you aren't going to be discussing every little thing. But in this case, I guess see what she says, but try to keep in mind her perspective.
Sorry Matt, I disagree. Taking care of your child's health and putting their well being first requires no apology. Would you call and rail at your wife if she did this? Of course not, she's looking for reasons to spew at Kem. If you did it for you D then don't take ownership of a "bad" decision because it wasn't.
If you did it to curry favor then it's a problem. Only you can really know your intent.
My 2 ¢
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I agree with bravo. If the roles were reversed? Besides. The child is the important one here. Kem's wife is just spoiling.
Besides, if Kems daughter had something serious wrong like a broken leg who would your wife be upset if you phoned from the roadside or the hospital?
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Sorry Matt, I disagree totally. Taking care of your child's health and putting their well being first requires no apology. Would you call and rail at your wife if she did this? Of course not, she's looking for reasons to spew at you. If you did it for you D then don't take ownership of a "bad" decision because it wasn't.
If you did it to curry favor then it's a problem. Only you can really know your intent.
My 2 ¢
Bravo - of course I agree with what you're saying in that the kids health and well being come first.
Maybe I misread/misunderstood the post. My take was that Kembo and W discussed about the doctor. W said she would handle it. Kembo tried to be proactive and did it first. What are the chances they both would call the doctor on the same day?
I think it's not THAT he made the appt, it's WHEN he made the appt.
If I'm misunderstanding, then I totally agree with Bravo.
We had no convo about it beforehand. My D2 told me her ear hurt yesterday so in the past I would have told my W and let her handle it, TRYING to be more proactive I scheduled appointment and was planning on taking her. No ill intentions on my part...
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Sorry Matt, I disagree totally. Taking care of your child's health and putting their well being first requires no apology. Would you call and rail at your wife if she did this? Of course not, she's looking for reasons to spew at you. If you did it for you D then don't take ownership of a "bad" decision because it wasn't.
If you did it to curry favor then it's a problem. Only you can really know your intent.
My 2 ¢
Bravo - of course I agree with what you're saying in that the kids health and well being come first.
Maybe I misread/misunderstood the post. My take was that Kembo and W discussed about the doctor. W said she would handle it. (Edit to add Kembo's words: 1. I called doctor to book appointment to help my W out). Kembo tried to be proactive and did it first. What are the chances they both would call the doctor on the same day?
I think it's not THAT he made the appt, it's WHEN he made the appt.
If I'm misunderstanding, then I totally agree with Bravo.
Don't you think it's sad that something so simple as phoning a doctors appointment for your child becomes a focus of anger like this? Bet it wast like that a year ago.
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Don't you think it's sad that something so simple as phoning a doctors appointment for your child becomes a focus of anger like this? Bet it wast like that a year ago.
Oh for sure. I never said I AGREE with the W's line of thinking. Just said that i can imagine that's what's going through her head.
The situation for every single one of us is sad. We spend hours agonizing over the most minute of texts/details/clothes. But with such limited interactions and such high stakes, it's what has to be done sometimes.
It's like playing chess against someone with 15 queens.
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