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right. taking a stance has been the best 180 i have done for me - by far!

I know how you feel. WW doesn't like it though. I think she thought I'd just walk away and dissolve or something.

hehe - prior to me busting her A my WW used to constantly threaten me with "As if that's going to help the M". You should've seen the spew when I took that power away from her.

hey - I don't think i've heard anything from you in a long time, perhaps never, that suggests you are open to R. has that boat sailed for you?

I can't say that it has for me completely, nor am I aiming for it. The possibility just seems so remote that it isn't worth focusing on at all. I am focusing on what I can make happen, or at least influence.

You'll remember when you see my new thread

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2574697#Post2574697

We mostly cross posts at Smothy and Huddy's place.

Do I think the R boat has sailed? Yes, pretty much.

Don't think I have forgotten my 100 things challenge!

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- honestly I thought you had. I have to admit I got stuck after the first few and start making up rules for myself. It was just becoming a list of synonyms otherwise. So I started just noting every instance throughout day when I did something or thought something which was "worthy".

That much at least helped, but I stopped doing it list wise. I am still mindful of it though which makes a difference.

Taking back the power, detaching and GAL. This is, I believe, be the turning point for us to see things as they really are. Making the changes for us and not as initially for the M. Then the power comes back to us, when we are really detached and do not care one way or the other. This is where the possibility of LBS becoming the WAS.

I read on Zues thread about losing our rose tinted spectacles and following LBD 'script'. Maybe this is a part of that that we need to go through?

Just for the record here is the link to Jims 100 list

Jims 100 list


So it can be done! Unless you want me to up the challenge 10 for every new thread?


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Yeah, control. Got some of that today. Feels good!

there it is again. Control. Of what? Ourselves? Our sitches? I get a lot of this sh!t from her as if I'm trying to control her. I don't care what she does. I do care about S9 and my future and if that upsets her plans then boo bloody hoo. Her loss.