breaking my own rule of not starting any more threads. I figure it's probably benificial to have a thread bearing my own name for a while though I'm not certain all these new faces round here are familiar with me.
in any case I am a piecer...been at it for over a year now..to answer that imediate question from those that don't know me, yes there was ow (though at this point still believed to have been ea), yes there was seperation of over 6 months, yes there was certainty on h's part that he wanted d and would never come home etc etc etc.
just watched a movie on tv, one I probably would have avoided in the past year but feeling more secure in myself and my m, dove in and wathced and am glad I did. "Dinner with friends" worth a watch.
anywho...
h continues to be supportive and present and appologetic for his past actions and I see us on a positive road.
Quote: h continues to be supportive and present and appologetic for his past actions and I see us on a positive road.
Good news, I hope. Will go back and read. I have opposite/exact scenario. WAW moved out last week, gave the definitive statements, "I'm not interested in working on the marriage. I'm not coming back, you understand that?"
I've been very up (with tremendous support and insight from everyone here) and down (sad, crying). I'm still in the house with 3 children. We passed 11 years in Nov.
I know I am responsible for my actions or inactions which brought us to this point. And I know I am responsible for my reactions from this point forward. And I am disappointed she has no interest in working on M. And I'm sure in many ways she has tried to tell me she was unhappy prior to now and I know I did not see.
Will read more. Hope to hear from you and how you got to where you are?
that's all my newcommers stuff (well most of it there were a few stray threads titled? how do we forgive, dating while trying to save m, how much effort should it take)
there are other threads in piecing the more recent 4 were started for me by others.
I warn anyone who chooses to read my old stuff...Though you may see my posts to others, my threads don't show you that same person (we are often strong and rational for others but weak when we are on our time) you will see raw emotion, plenty of rants, someone trying to figure it all out, someone struggling, someone wanting to quit on many occassions etc.
enjoy...I don't read them anymore but they're there and so am I if anyone needs it.
"it's the end of the world as we know it" "and I feel fine"
trust me on this...no matter what happens...you will be fine.
Quote: you will see raw emotion, plenty of rants, someone trying to figure it all out, someone struggling, someone wanting to quit on many occassions etc.
You? Or me? I want to give up and I have not even started. It is funny how we can be objective, if we were to read our thread as a 3rd party, we could see where to help, but try to turn inward and we get lost.
I've said before, it is sad, we had to get to this point, to discover ourselves.
What you will see if you read my threads is MY raw emotion etc. But of course it's pretty much the same emotional flip flop we all go through I've just put it in words. Some find it painful to read and others...well keep in mind where I am now and it's not so bad...there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
Re. the movie I mentioned in the first post. Do not watch it with the intent of learning from the ding couple, instead watch the effect it has on their friends and how they handle it.
Quote: How are things? How are the book reading sessions? things are great around here...our book reading evenings haven't been on any schedule but we have been reading and spending time together, infact h suggested we go out this sat night.
I have just experienced a rough patch on the roller coaster - rides this nauseating shouldn't be allowed!! they shouldn't but then would we still enjoy the calm? I'll take a peek in on ya and see w'sup.
Quote: things are great around here...our book reading evenings haven't been on any schedule but we have been reading and spending time together, infact h suggested we go out this sat night.
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