Had a great time at the 2 fight parties s14 and I attended.
Couple things I noticed about H, he seems to be more intuned with me, like I was sick yesterday and he showed concerned, ask me how I felt several times even this morning. This is a positive change?
Also been having more knee problems, H purchase a knee brace for me left it on counter with a note, it did not fit, H went right back and got the next size for me to try, was also making suggestions about Dr's I need to see about my knee. Another change.
I think he is showing more concern for me and my well being then he has in a while? Not reading too much into it, just making an observation, while trying not to miss positive signs?
BUT, H also made some comments about my GAL's in a negative way. Once again he made the comment that I always have plans. This came up again probably because of my fight party events, and he over heard me yesterday talking about todays Cinco De Mayo plans with my friends, and after he over heard my plans S14 ask me to take him to barber today, and I said I will have to take you Wed I have plans for Tuesday....H was said to s14. Mom has plans!
H was like what are you doing,,, I told him, he was like where, I told him, he was like with who..I told him. I tried to ignore all these questions and redirect the conversation, but H keep coming back to it. when I said what do you want me to do, just sit in this house and wilt away and die,,,I told him I was a flower blooming...LOL
Told him I'd rather be doing other things,,,just hinted with him, but that I would not be sitting around doing NOTHING!
Some days, I feel like I can "stand" forever, some days I feel like "I'm done".
Me 43 ring off Oct 2014 (my ring back on Feb 2015) H 51 (ring off 7/2013) M 2007 T 1996 S 14 July 2013- H told me he was unhappy.....said he is staying for Son Feb 18 2014 Found out about OW
A flower blooming...well said. Sounds like he's noticing that you are a busy bee these days and feels left out...well, the old boy could ask you out or suggest doing something together...but he's not there yet. Poor man!
I think you've finally figured out how to live your life to the fullest and it sounds like you are having a wonderful time doing so. Keep up the good work!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
2B- you sound great. I think you are doing an awesome job. And, deny it all he wants... I think your h does, too. Just keep on doing you! It's fan...tas..tic!
Thank you all for your support, and encouragement.
I will continue on my path, and pray H catches up. BUT if not,,,I know I will be great.
Me 43 ring off Oct 2014 (my ring back on Feb 2015) H 51 (ring off 7/2013) M 2007 T 1996 S 14 July 2013- H told me he was unhappy.....said he is staying for Son Feb 18 2014 Found out about OW
So, I normally get the holiday, birthday cards for my H to give his family.
He usually ask me at last minute "oh can you pick up card for so and so..." Just happen for BIL april bday.
Mother's day H usually send cards to his Sisters and daughter (cards I usually pick up for him).
He has not yet mentioned the mother's day cards...I have 2 for his sisters, could get one for his daughter and leave out on the table for H to sign, then I send them off.
BUT in the spirit of not trying to be H mom, and NOT being his fixer, and wanting him to feel a little of what life would be like without me (while still living together) AND the whole DBing...
I have already sent out a Mother's day card to 1 SIL from myself, we are very very close and always exchange cards.
The other SIL, we are NOT close. SD we are not close like at all either, and dont exchnage cards, but we do call each other and wish happy mothers day.
Well all that to say, should I leave the cards out, pick up another card for SD. OR wait and see if H even ask me.
Me 43 ring off Oct 2014 (my ring back on Feb 2015) H 51 (ring off 7/2013) M 2007 T 1996 S 14 July 2013- H told me he was unhappy.....said he is staying for Son Feb 18 2014 Found out about OW
Surely he knows that Mother's Day is this Sunday, i.e., advertisements are all over the place about it. I wouldn't say a word and let him figure it out. If he wants to send cards to them, he can pick them up and put them in the mail.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Job, that is what my mind was telling me, but was heart was saying "awww...leave the card so H can send to his sisters and daughter"
But, our R our M is no longer in that place right now, and I need to stop being a FIXER.
Back to planning weekend with my Mom and S14:)
Me 43 ring off Oct 2014 (my ring back on Feb 2015) H 51 (ring off 7/2013) M 2007 T 1996 S 14 July 2013- H told me he was unhappy.....said he is staying for Son Feb 18 2014 Found out about OW
Happy, If you would feel better about leaving the card out, then do so. You are truly the only one that can determine what you will and will not do for your h.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
