Last night she left and didn't come to the house until almost 8:00 a.m. I got my son off to school without her.
We had to go to friend of the court today for a 45 minute class the judge puts on that discusses well being of the children, next steps, etc. The no cohabitation order, etc.
On the way back, we got into a discussion about the divorce agreement and S7's needs for the future. She told me to focus on someone who has kids, because he wants a bigger family. I agreed and said that S7 had been begging to have more interaction with family, especially at holidays and STBXW wouldn't allow it. She said that it just isn't her. She wants as few people as possible.
The STBXW then proceeded to tell me that she knows she's a bad mother. That she's broken and that's part of the reason she's giving me physical custody (plus she wants him to grow up on the lake). That she knows she can't do it (be mom full time). The more she tried, the more unhappy she got, the angrier she became. That she can do either thing with a balance or she's miserable. She's viewing her parent time in the decree vs. her spending time chasing other things as a balance. Stupid sad.
I did tell her I know. That I tried sooo hard to meet her demands... it was just never enough.
Me: 45 W43 S7, Foster S9 (Planning to adopt post divorce) D mentioned Feb 2015, Wife served 3/24/2015. She moved out 4/15/2015.
One thing I also stated is that everything was fixable at one point.
She also mentioned that the OM wanted a lot if the things she does. I told ger i always wsnted those as well. But that she would never let some of it happen.
Me: 45 W43 S7, Foster S9 (Planning to adopt post divorce) D mentioned Feb 2015, Wife served 3/24/2015. She moved out 4/15/2015.
Something I was doing when the STBXW and I got together was organizing social gatherings.
Over the years that I've been married, I've lost a lot of the friends due to a bunch of different issues.
Heck, we even had DB Get-Togethers locally and arranged a trip to Vegas for all of us that went through it at the same time as my 1st divorce.
I've been thinking that one of the best things I could do would be to start something up focused on single adults with kids since dating will be difficult with having a child to take care of.
It needs some more thought. Maybe by the time I'm ready to date again I'll have it figured out.
Me: 45 W43 S7, Foster S9 (Planning to adopt post divorce) D mentioned Feb 2015, Wife served 3/24/2015. She moved out 4/15/2015.
So today, she pulled a surprise move-out. I have a bunch of mixed emotions. S7 was really upset and cried for a bit. He said a lot of things about Mom that for a 7 year old were pretty tough. :P
At least she only took what we agreed to (I think).
When I mentioned how upset he was via text, her response was that divorce is hard and that I should comfort him.
I responded that I videoed his reaction for her to watch. She told me that I was being cruel.
Me: 45 W43 S7, Foster S9 (Planning to adopt post divorce) D mentioned Feb 2015, Wife served 3/24/2015. She moved out 4/15/2015.
I responded that I videoed his reaction for her to watch. She told me that I was being cruel.
Why would you do that, Sherman?! That's totally inappropriate. Videoing a private moment that should belong to S7 alone...not to be used in your War of the Roses moment to "get back at STBXW".
For once, STBXW was right in that you should be the one to comfort S7.
I didn't actually video him. I was hugging him instead. It was more of a dig at her.
She's been such an a$$ about everything and how much she's hurt her family. I know it was petty and i was pissed. Most of the time I've been able to keep to the high road, but I have my moments.
Her smiling when she told me what she had done really stung. That's something I won't soon forget.
Me: 45 W43 S7, Foster S9 (Planning to adopt post divorce) D mentioned Feb 2015, Wife served 3/24/2015. She moved out 4/15/2015.
Hi Sherman. I totally get how you feel but these are the times you need to control for YOU. W has moved out and I am glad for you and S. For a 7 year old he has heard way too much from W and he needs every bit of comfort that I'm sure you are giving him.
This is a terrible time for you Sherman but I can't imagine how tough it is for your son. I actually worry when I see you have posted because iof the amount of verbal abuse and mental cruelty from your W
Take care of You and S and positive thoughts going your way. Rd
This woman is toxic, and she brings out (sometimes) the worst in you as well, Sherman. I would strongly suggest that you find a trusted third party intermediary from this point forward, and eliminate all personal contact with her. It's very typically done in situations such as yours.
