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Glad you are getting out for GAL.

Post when you can.

Had a hard time last night. I'm starting to work earlier in the day which means I lose my morning snuggle time with my S. I know I'll figure it out, but was grieving just a little. We tried so hard to have this precious boy and I feel like my H is throwing it all away.

LOL! Now my BIL is coming too. Wonder what my H is going to do.

Its not your problem, IMHO!

I know, Cadet, but it is really hard sometimes to remember that. 23 years is a hard habit to break. I really wish his family knew as I feel like I'm lying to them everytime they call and ask how everything is.

I will now step back on my path of self discovery and GALing again. Thanks for the reminder.

My inlaws are coming tonight. I'm pretty nervous about how this is going to go. I'm not sure how to detach from this sitch.

Hi Eirinn

Good luck with the visit. I hope it goes well. Are your inlaws aware of your sitch at all, without checking back?

Hi Toots,

No, he has not told them. He says he's not ready to yet, so I let him sleep in our room for tonight while they're here. Not sure if that was the right thing to do or not. I'm trying to guess his thoughts and I shouldn't be, I know. Keep thinking that if he doesn't want to tell that could be good in my favor, but it could just be more of him not taking responsibility for his actions.

He told me yesterday that we should buy a car seat for our second car and that got me feeling like he's going to tell me he's moving out soon. This whole week he's been withdrawn and I actually caught myself persuing him I think. Was asking if he needed help bringing out the trash, and bringing in groceries and such. He seemed irritated that I offered and then it hit me that I was pushing him to interact with me. Detaching and DB works much better, but it's hard to remember.

He's acting short and snippy with me lately. I wonder what misstep I took. This is so exhausting.

"He's acting short and snippy with me lately. I wonder what misstep I took. "

Don't bother analyzing everything. Just when you think you have him figured out, he'll act another way entirely. Just concentrate on your own actions and act the way YOU want to act.